Something else - to think about........

When I was getting a divorce, and the world seemed as if it was upside down one small thing started to help. A friend and I began a game of -- "Tell me a story." Whichever one was in need, the other would begin, in detail, a fictitious tale describing problems that were different, seemingly unique. For example -- "A friend of mine just called and she has a hang nail on her 5th finger..." (that could start the laugh) and it would go on from there. When done, we were laughing and feeling oh, so much better. OK, some days needed more than one story.

What happened was that our minds were taken away from what our own personal experiences, even if for a few minutes. Those few minutes began to add up as memories that we could return to, rather than the memories our minds were creating of misery, uncertainty, loss, fear, etc.

When love leaves - whether through death, divorce, separation, it can rock your world.

Everyone benefits when their minds are taking care of someone or something else. If need to, start small, take small steps. Make a list of steps to take and be specific. This works great with children. Don't leave them out of the healing process, in fact, get them involved. If they have lost someone they love, help keep them connected. Have a memory sharing time - I remember when.... Get out pictures of when the kids were small, sitting on Grandpa's knee, etc.

Volunteer to help others, bake cookies, paint a room, go sledding. Start seeds for spring planting, plan a memory garden. OK - in the South, where there is no snow, you tell me. I'm always looking for ideas. Go hiking, play tennis, create a small play. Note all things create action and can be done with others. The important thing -- a start is made.

HEALING - RELATIONSHIP - LOVE - EVERY DAY

Good Morning - a bit early, and I have been a bit "under the weather" the last few days. OK, I'm sick. Nothing serious. However, not bounding around full of energy, rather lethargic, somewhat grumpy, and finally not defiant. In other words, I'm allowing whatever is happening to happen, yet taking steps to move past it.

PATIENCE!!!! Yikes, that is a challenging word for me. Within the relationship of one, two or more, such as families or groups patience is number one, I believe. A lot roles into that one word. The concept of "Just Be," for example.

I have heard your questions, comments and needs more clearly for some, and with others the statements have been or questions are broad and large. Yet, keeping in "A Tidbit" form, I write what seems to happen or appear in front of me.

When healing from or accepting loss of any kind, from illness, from or within whatever place I find myself -- patience.

Advantages: It provides time to see more clearly, time to understand and take corrective action, time to nap, some days.

If on vacation in England for instance - I"m so flattered you are reading my blog, yet, as a suggestion -- patience. Move away from the computer and other electronic devices and have a TRUE vacation. What a wonderful experience you are having. One to share with another, once another is found.

"Fire Proof" - Patience. When giving a gift, expectations can derail the true meaning. And, there is nothing wrong with pink. Think of the process as a gift. Give it and let it go. Patience

Loss - Patience. Each person will process loss differently. Perhaps, look at the prior right and wrong blog posts. Also, take time to notice emotions from feelings. When you can, dive in to determine what truly is going on. What is the emotion, and then determine the feeling. There is a post somewhere about this. Patience, with yourself and the process of healing. Pain cannot be put on a blackboard and wiped away in one swipe. It will fade, which can take patience.

Patience - a gift to others and yourself. It does not mean that nothing is being accomplished. Patience can mean that you are taking time to observe the accomplishment.

OK - I'm off to the Dr. this morning, and patiently my day is beginning.

Squeeze joy --

Relationships......

Here is a great source for those looking for something quickly. Looking for something quickly, will not solve whatever challenge you have. Yet, beginning is a wonderful place to be. So much opportunity. Consider a clean slate - your mind is open - resistance is down - eyes, ears and mind are open and free from judgment.

OK, start there :) :) :) :)

Then head to klove.com where there is a daily "Love Dare." Rather than me go into depth here, go to the website and check it out. "The Love Dare" is a book. It is being posted on the site each day, and today is Day 4.

I'll be back - just HEARD the need and did not want you to leave you without support.

Squeeze joy - and Happy Saturday!

Thursday Thought

"It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy...." - Charles H. Spurgeon

After a fairly challenging day yesterday at my day job, this resonated with me. Days begin, days end -- as goes every other aspect of our lives. The recent posts to the first two blogs of the year resonated. When something ends, something begins.

What a wonderful beginning of a nursing career, or end to school. Lisa, CONGRATULATIONS on a job well done. Achieving a 4.0. Magnificent!!!!!! And, I so appreciate you stepping up and sharing this accomplishment.

A child is born another person passes. Sweet and Sour is on our tongues, in our minds and in our thoughts. Sour is pain.

Something I have not done lately, which is going to happen tonight. I am so grateful this minute, this day, in this new year for many things, and a list is mandatory today. I just tucked a notebook in my purse. Begin to consider the joy, sweet memories and appreciation for what is, and what is not.

Sweet is the process of "Squeezing joy from each minute, time does not return, yet memories do."

New Year - a Beginning and a Change

2010 is upon us - the days already passed have been for some joyful, for others exhausting, for others renewing, and for others, well, heart wrenching, to say the least as recent posts to this blog have indicated.

First, let me personally say how deeply and sincerely sorry I am for the place that you find yourselves right now. The loss of anyone can be sorrowful. Yet, the loss of people so loved to a variety of experiences and situations with some passing from lives and relationships in ways almost impossible to imagine, is heart wrenching.

This is A Tidbit, designed to be small, digestible bites. I will continue to follow God's advice and share the thoughts that come to me. You all enrich me, and I thank you for taking the time to share your experiences.

Perhaps the first person who posted on this topic provided comfort and solace to the next, and the path is continuing.

That is all for today. Yet I did not want another minute to go by before acknowledging the obvious bravery, love and pain expressed in the recent posts. A thought - love lost - is not truly lost. It will always be held in your heart - it would seem the heart wrenching pain, is that love digging deep into your hearts to hold forever.

Namaste --

MERRY CHRISTMAS -- HAPPY HOLIDAYS

MERRY CHRISTMAS

AND HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Many blessings to each and everyone from me to you for a joyful, loving, forgiving, blessed and simply wonderful Holiday and New Year.

I've been taking some time looking back on the blogs that have been posted for a couple years. I don't believe it is over, yet the shape and thought will possibly change. Once a person feels more balanced, what is next?

The last few months have been a delightful process of reconnecting, reviewing, regenerating, re-energizing, for me. I've taken a few blogs to heart again. It has been interesting to see it from a different perspective. I continue that process, and will see where it takes me.

Where are you? Be gentle to yourself as the official New Year approaches. I consider every day a "new" beginning.

Perhaps we will simply start there next time.

Peace ........

A Different Perspective

God gave us two ears to listen -- two eyes to see -- and one mouth to talk. This past week, I used the ears. My 2 1/2 year-old grandson used his fresh eyes and one mouth to share a wonderful way for me to consider my recent birthday.

This is not an advertisement, rather, it is an experience. Recently, I had a birthday. A group of family and friends gathered to help celebrate.

A friend went to the M&M candy website at mymms.com. They accept pictures or words, and you can choose any color you would like. Using a current photo and one when I was a little girl, she created little bags of M&M's as party favors.

My grandson, Spencer, began sorting them the candies "Old Nanna," "New Nanna."

A new perspective -- forever "New."

Consider each day - NEW. Consider, each minute NEW.

Namaste