Webster's definition of "strength" is "........ 1: the quality or state of being strong : capacity for exertion or endurance 2: power to resist force: solidity, toughness 3: power to resist attack : impregnability 4 a : legal, logical, or moral force b : a strong attribute or inherent asset..."
Webster's definition of "power" is much longer than strength which I find interesting "....1 a (1) ability to act or produce an effect (2) : the ability to get extra base hits (3) capacity for being acted upon or undergoing an effect b: legal or official authority, capacity, or right 2 a: possession of control, authority, or influence over others...."
"Power implies possession of ability to wield force, permissive authority, or substantial influence..."
The definition is quite long and I suggest you review it in its entirety. Because of that alone, I prefer to have strength. To me, strength offers to others, it does not wield force.
Some people believe that they have a need to be controlled, to be told what to do, and acquiesce to another to be in charge and make the decisions. I ask is it simply easier, is it that which is accustomed and have not experienced different, or........
Some people feel the need to be in power as they are uncertain of who they are without. There is no other paradigm to follow.
Power is granted, strength is acquired.
Simply an observation -- which is what "A Tidbit" is about.
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from Hi Susan---Maria of TX---What an amazing post as I thank you for sharing the difference as come from strengh is so much more pleasant. For me that is what I grew up with that the man was in control and the woman is suppose to just sit them. Took me a long time to see it differently and to this day still trying to do things differently. It was the era that I was born in as I am 79 yrs and a reader of yours for 2 years now and love all your glorious writings and you photographer is fantastic.
I have raised my children do not let anyone control you like your mother was. Love these definitions. Everyone has a remarkable mind and nice to hear what other's think. Yet my husband still tries to controll our children as it does not work anymore on our children.
We had some huge fights about it yes we are still married yet i have wondered sometimes.
Look forward to reading more you.
Hi Susan--Debra of Henrietta NY--So enjoyed your post on Strengh and how true that is. As I need to remind myself to come from strengh instead of power as strengh is so much more satisfying and a wonderful feeling.
I have a boyfriend and he likes to be in control and i have found myself following what he wanted me to do yet that is not being true to myself. Thank you for helping me to understand that we have so many choices and i confronted my boyfriend a bit nervous yet the out come was positive and he wants to really work at us and at being equals. I can not begin to share with you how that feels to hear my boyfriend say that. As my boyfriend believes in us and that we are so worth it on listening more to each other and that one person is not more important than the other. Also i am a loyal reader of yours for over a year in a half now and your writings just keep inspiring me and as I have tried many of your suggestions. Also you have one fantastic photographer. We look forward to reading more from you.
Hi Susan---it's Brian from the SU GANG how the heck are you as it's been a while since we have commented as a lot has gone on with everyone. We had finals we took and all of us passed so yeahhhhhh next year we graduate which will be a huge relief.
All of us wanted to just commend you on such brilliant work you keep providing as we so believe to come from strength as the school year was coming to and end for the summer we needed each other more than anything as one of close friends that's a part of us died in a car crash due to a drunk driver. All of us took it very hard and we all spoke with someone as it so hard to believe that our best friend was gone in a blink of an eye.
So we all pulled us up from strength instead of power. As we enpowered each of us by being there for one another as we provided strength for all of us to get through this devistation (sp) and when we just read your post we all started to cry it was a cleansing cry shared by all as we have held it in now for awhile.
Our friend died about 4 wks ago as a few of us hung around for a extra days and was cleaning up our rooms that were in and to see this post on your sight brought us relief and gave us some direction how to move forward.
the number one thing for us has been being everyones strong hold and being there for each other.
Thanks so much for this post as all of us are still hurting pretty badly. Yet we know he did not suffer as he died on impact was not prolonged. I'm sorry i have tears coming to my eyes.
WE all thank you for this post and so glad your hear to provide such wonderful insights.
Hi Susan---it's Brian from the SU GANG how the heck are you as it's been a while since we have commented as a lot has gone on with everyone. We had finals we took and all of us passed so yeahhhhhh next year we graduate which will be a huge relief.
All of us wanted to just commend you on such brilliant work you keep providing as we so believe to come from strength as the school year was coming to and end for the summer we needed each other more than anything as one of close friends that's a part of us died in a car crash due to a drunk driver. All of us took it very hard and we all spoke with someone as it so hard to believe that our best friend was gone in a blink of an eye.
So we all pulled us up from strength instead of power. As we enpowered each of us by being there for one another as we provided strength for all of us to get through this devistation (sp) and when we just read your post we all started to cry it was a cleansing cry shared by all as we have held it in now for awhile.
Our friend died about 4 wks ago as a few of us hung around for a extra days and was cleaning up our rooms that were in and to see this post on your sight brought us relief and gave us some direction how to move forward.
the number one thing for us has been being everyones strong hold and being there for each other.
Thanks so much for this post as all of us are still hurting pretty badly. Yet we know he did not suffer as he died on impact was not prolonged. I'm sorry i have tears coming to my eyes.
WE all thank you for this post and so glad your hear to provide such wonderful insights.
Hi Susan---Rachel of Ontario Canada
How can I thank you for this post as this is just what i have been needing to hear.
Come from strength is key to just being who you are and when we come from power we tend to loose that sense of self.
I approached my husband of 15 yrs as he has not admitted to himself that he is an alcoholic and has been for the last several years.
We have gone through many arguments as when he drinks he's the type that is not pleasant to be around.
I had reached my limit a few nights back as my husband was drinking the smallest things set him off and then takes it out on me. This time he pushed me down hard that i sprained my wrist.
It took strength to to tell my husband that i am going to leave until he will admit that he needs help as i had my daughter and son in law pick me up.
You get to the point that it's there choice and no matter how much you talk to them if they do not want to admit to themselves then there's nothing else that i can do.
So after thinking long and hard about it I am going to stay with my daughter her husband and my grandson for awhile as they have a huge house as i am tired of being the punching bag.
Thank you so much for sharing this and that it's ok to do what we need to do and be the true person that we are instead of walking on egg shells. If and when my husband desides he needs help then one or all of us will get him into a program yet until then I am in a safe and inviting environment.
You are trully God's gift to all of us as you have such a graceful way on how you word things.
Your photographer is amazing as i have been a loyal reader of yours for over 2yrs.
Your sight is my place for calm and peacefulness.
Look forward to reading more and again thank you so much for providing such wonderful insights and choices we have that you make us aware we do have.
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