Hate and Dislike Trap US - The TARGET Is Unaffected

"Hate traps us by binding us too tightly to our adversary." Milan Kundera

I remember as a small child saying and thinking, "I hate this..." or "I hate that..." As a 7-year old, my hate was directed at a glass of milk getting warmer and warmer as it sat on the dining room table waiting for me to drink it. What is non-existent and, such a small issue today, appeared huge and looming when I was 7.

When we get older the targets seem to get larger, and more negative energy is transferred from our thoughts to our feelings. What resonates with me about this quote are the words, "binding us too tightly..."

Hate cripples the person hating, not the person being hated. It crippled the milk, which obviously, did not respond or react. The same thing happens with a person being hated if she/he has moved on or is unaware or uncaring about our feelings.

Replace the word "hate" with "dislike," "very annoyed with," etc. See what arrives.

Suggestion: Perhaps consider the hated target as milk. That will be great if you like milk. You might move from hate to -- something else less dark. If you don't like milk, there are alternatives. It may seem simplistic; however, your feelings are your choice. Choose to move past milk, and find something else to occupy your energy. Volunteer - find a coach - or? What will you do? If you do find something, please post it as it might help others.

Thanks again very much to all that are commenting - your energy and thoughts, and experiences are helpful to the whole Tribe of us. It is also so fun to see where you are living. Boston, Arizona, Hawaii, New York, North Carolina, etc.

Choose JOY - it is so fun to smile!

Milan Kundera from Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia