PETER DRUCKER

"The best way to predict the future is to create it." by Peter Drucker

This resonates with me - as I have learned that everything I have now I have created with my reactions, decisions, indecisions, choices, or lack of choice. You might ask indecisions or lack of choice? Yes, when I let others choose or let decisions pass me by, and I allow others to make the decision. Regardless of the steps taken, all of mine have created the life and present I have now.

Since I am so aware of this concept, that I have truly been creating my future. I want to coach, and I am. Yet, I truly love many things. Recently I determined that I wanted a full-time position and coach part-time. Among other things, I returned to an employment agent that I had met a few years ago. She remembered my resume, we met, and a week later I had an interview. I had the interview on Monday, references were requested on Tuesday, and an offer made on Wed. I accepted on Thursday after clarifying a few details.

I am creating my future. I still have my evenings and weekends, I will be gainfully employed in an environment that I have envisioned. You see, I have done my homework. A few years ago I did a process to describe my perfect day -- in detail -- from morning until night on one piece of paper. I described my perfect job on another. I described my perfect living environment on another. A few times I went back to them and made a few changes based on my then current desires and needs.

That is how you create your own future.

1. Make your own decisions.
2. Make your own clear choices.
3. Create a vision in different environments - spiritual, living, financial, relationship, wardrobe, etc. etc. etc. Get as detailed as you can. Put it in a book, so it can expand as your mind and vision expands. Think BIG - it can happen. If you think small, small will happen. Then set it aside and forget about it. You have asked.
4. Take steps every day. If you miss a day, cheers, there will be another.
5. No self bashing allowed. Shake it off, reassess, and move forward again.
6. and, hire a coach.

Squeeze the joy from every minute - minutes don't return, yet memories do!

RING TONES - LINK

OK - I may be simply catching up, or this might be a new site for you. Whichever it is, I found it terrific, helpful and simply FUN to check out. And, I got my new ring tone from this site very easy. I found it and asked my VA (Virtual Assistant) to download it to my phone. Then I asked her, and she said it was a snap.

Here is the link - myxertones.com


You can also create your very own ring tone on this site.

Squeeze the joy from every minute, minutes don't return, yet memories do!

TORTOISE AND THE HARE ??????

"Behold the turtle. He makes progress only when he sticks his neck out."
James B. Conant, Chemist, Diplomat, Educator 1893-1978

Hi everyone - I was posting so often, that almost a week seems to me like a long time. I've been sticking my neck out with success. I picked a target (goal) and took steps to achieve that goal. I stuck my neck out to apply, get the interview, sell myself by being myself, and then being offered the day job that I wanted. I regard that as not only progress, yet success also.

In thinking of this quote, I thought about not only progress, yet as I was making progress, when would I feel successful. I asked one person who got a job offer and accepted same, if she felt successful. She said, "Oh, no, I have not done the job yet, or gotten a raise, ...." or, or, or, or.
The or, or was not said, it was interpreted. I was not coaching her, it was simply a question.

So, when I heard the or, or, or -- I thought, wow, when does she appreciate her accomplishment and acknowledge and celebrate what she has done. Then she could regroup and then create another target (goal) with renewed energy. When I recalled how her voice sounded, it was rather quiet with no sense of energy.

Suggestion: Are you setting your goals or standards too high without mini celebrations inside the package? Note I say without mini celebrations. I loudly applaud people who set high goals and targets, yet sometimes in execution they are missed simply due to lack of energy or focus. It is not because of talent or possibility. It can also be missed because they don't start.

Set mini targets and goals to start within a larger picture. As you celebrate your accomplishments the larger goal or target will become clearer and clearer. The larger goal or target will more likely be reached, as you will maintain the energy, focus and vision to climb to the top rung.

"Squeeze the joy........."

WHAT DO YOU REFLECT?

If you look in the mirror, what do you reflect? As you walk about and through your day, in a way, you are reflecting onto others. Think of yourself as a mirror to others. If you are thinking of the phrase, like attracts like, consider what your actions, words and thoughts are viewed by others. These others can be your husband, your boyfriend, your children, your parents, your friends, etc. etc.

And, if you are coming from anger, annoyance, what might it look like to someone you love? You are driving in your car and someone cuts you off. You quickly react with a yell, perhaps a few words and an expression that would tell the world what you are thinking. Are you alone? Or do you have an audience?

I actually saw this on a TV show, so I don't take credit - yet, I don't typically anyway. The show was focusing on people's facial expressions. What are you reflecting to others. What would you like to reflect?

Are you in sales? Customer service?

Suggestion: Next time you are walking down the street, take a minute to pay attention to your thoughts, perhaps smile or, at least not frown. It takes less muscles to smile anyway.

Enjoy!

ESCAPE, ENTERTAINED OR AWARE?

I suggest you check out the comments on the last post. They are from a coach in Canada who has a very interesting blog. I recommend it. You can grab that too from there.

He mentions - Like attracts like. Yes that is true, yet do "they" know it? That is one of the purposes of this blog is to assist the "notice" portion of life. It is somewhat like looking in a mirror - it reflects back to you what is there. If you move through life with your attention on - simply the like attracts like theory, it might be like looking in a mirror. Hmm, that sounds familiar or, my relationship is not that bad, or ......

What do you do when you don't like the reflection? Oh, today I colored my hair. That took care of the outside, for now. Now, it is time for lunch and focus on the inside. Also, to ponder over this post and consider another.

Thanks again to all that comment, as it truly does stir up the thoughts, can create interesting thought waves. Please, continue, I welcome you.

Cheers,

ESCAPE OR BE ENTERTAINED

Another thought today that popped into my head when reading a post on the "New York Times" newspaper site. It is about blogs that display people's opinions of what happened in their relationships. They are apparently providing all the "dirt" on what happened when a relationship when sour. I saw a number of 55,000 hits for one blog.

Are people reading these for entertainment, to escape from their own life, to get some ideas, or to make their own life seem normal and sane. It has been proven that what you put your attention or focus on is what will happen in your life.

It appears that people pay attention to things that have activity, novelty, suspense, conflict, etc. What if people moved away from other people's drama, and took care to deal with their own challenges, desires, needs. Or, how about putting attention on taking steps to assist others with their challenges, desires and needs. "Pay it Forward."

I'm simply musing here and mulling over some thoughts that will get clearer as I reread this blog. What do you get from these thoughts? Or, are there that many and more people who are in relationships that are going sour or think their relationship might be going sour and wonder about others also?

If you are in a relationship that has challenges, perhaps the book "Getting the Love You Want," by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D will be a good read.

Cheers, and Squeeze the Joy every minute, minutes do not return, yet memories do.

Andre Gide Quote

"It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not." - Andre Gide

Here again, I won't post a quote from someone who has values that I don't live by. The description of who Andre Gide was is a good summation of the quote above. He also lived by being who he truly is rather than being what others wanted him to be, or who he thought he "should" be. Live true to yourself - and while doing that,

"Squeeze the joy from every minute, as minutes won't return, yet memories do"

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André Paul Guillaume Gide (French IPA: [ɑ̃dʁe pɔl ɡijom ʒid]) (November 22, 1869—February 19, 1951) was a French author and winner of the Nobel Prize in literature in 1947. Gide's career ranged from its beginnings in the symbolist movement, to the advent of anticolonialism between the two World Wars.
Known for his fiction as well as his autobiographical works, Gide exposes to public view the conflict and eventual reconciliation between the two sides of his personality, split apart by a strait-laced education and a narrow social moralism. Gide's work can be seen as an investigation of freedom and empowerment in the face of moralistic and puritan constraints, and gravitates around his continuous effort to achieve intellectual honesty. His self-exploratory texts reflect his search of how to be fully oneself, even to the point of owning one's sexual nature, without at the same time betraying one's values. His political activity is informed by the same ethos, as suggested by his repudiation of communism after his 1936 voyage to the USSR

SPRING IS HERE

"Do good with what thou hast, or it will do thee no good." – William Penn

Just got to thinking this morning -- what a wonderful time of year to clean and refresh the car, start to organize my office, process through my spring and summer clothes to see what is there and what is needed. And, most important, if I'm not already behind the readers of this blog, clean the golf clubs, tune up your bike, stock up on tennis balls, (for men, shave or not your face) (for women, shave our legs).

Part of living in the moment is taking care of what we have, removing what we don't need to create space for the life that is coming toward us.

Suggestion: Be real with what you have. Make a plan, get help if needed, and simply begin. Spend some time each day, as little as 1/2 hour can make a difference after one week. Then, start week two.

Let me know if I can help!

CONNECTION OR QUICK FIX

There are a myriad of choices people make in a day. They can become quick choices -- the choice is made, move on, all is well.

There is another choice that can become an experience. I was going to send flowers to my mom in the hospital the other day. The first thought arrived to quickly stop by Wegman's, grab some flowers and show up for a visit. Hmm, not bad, I would get "points" for both.

Yet, my mind quickly switched to Kittelberger's Florist in Webster. Wow - 25 minutes at least there, then 25 min. more to the hospital.

Then -- I thought about the original choice. I wanted to give my mom flowers to brighten her day. That was the intention. The total thought was about my mother, and not about me. She has no interest in the bit of care that fresh flower arrangement need.

My time is important, yet doing it quickly would not respect my original thought.

Kittelberger's is also an amazing location. It is full of plant life and smiley, happy people's energy surrounded by brilliant colors and fresh aromas. When I arrived there were men, women, and children, and their bright chatter entered my ears. Again I was hooked in the experience.

The perfect artificial arrangement became visible. Soft, pink flowers are arranged in a glass vase with artificial water. I wandered slowly, enjoying the journey, toward the counter to pay. At the counter a woman arrived to check on flowers she had ordered for her son's wedding rehearsal dinner that evening. She admired my choice, and then we were connected. Then she saw the flowers she ordered. They were a selection of brilliant blues, with purple, white, and deep pink in a clear vase. Her eyes glistened with tears of delight, as those around her joined in the moment listening to her plans and her joy.

This was truly a connection, and I walked away with a treasure for my mom and a heart full of joy.

So many choices quickly slip into action with little thought or attention. Some can be richer with a bit of consideration.


"Squeeze the joy from every minute, as time does not return, yet memories do."

DO IT ANYWAY

http://www.paradoxicalcommandments.com/posters.html


You might have seen this, yet it is worth mentioning again - and again - and again - especially some days.


Squeeze the joy from each minute, they don't return, yet memories do!

101 MOST USEFUL WEBSITES

Here is a cool website telegraph.co.uk. On the site there is a list of what the author considers 101 Most Useful Websites. You want information or resources -- check this out. Lots of tech stuff.

Just a quick bit of information for those hungry for something else. Let me know, if you visit it what you think.

Cheers!

RALPH WALDO EMERSON - QUOTE

"Criticism should not be querulous and wasting, all knife and root-puller, but guiding, instructive, inspiring." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Another way to say - leave RIGHT or WRONG to facts and school. When becoming that person who is supportive, patient, understanding, warm, and, and and, the only option open is to be a person who is "guiding, instructive, inspiring."

Which sounds better to you? Will it be easier to tell the difference in the future? It is ALWAYS your choice to stay and listen, or move on when recognizing that the person with wasteful comments, suggestions or ideas has issues and challenges likely greater than yours.

"Squeeze the joy from each second, time does not return, yet memories do!" by Susan Korb

MOVE YOUR WEBSITE OR BLOG UP ON GOOGLE

http://lifecoach.qassia.com/

Check out this site if you want to promote your website or blog. This is my new link that I started today. I heard about it from a reliable source -- I'm new at it - stay tuned, for more fun, join and share information.

BEING RIGHT FROM ANOTHER PERSPECTIVE

"Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others." Proverbs 12:15, NLT

This arrived in my email this morning from K-Love, and I immediately came here to share. Where are you currently on the topic? What has it brought up for you?

I have a pretty full day. Getting over the flu, coaching, an interview, maybe some laundry, and a nap. I am truly grateful for everything in my day today.

Squeeze the joy.........