TIME FINDER - THINK YOU DON'T HAVE ENOUGH?

A Tidbit on - Where is the time? I never seem to have enough, and where does it go? Etc.

These are questions I have recently asked myself, in the past, and seemingly forever.

Yesterday, a three-minute egg timer was used in a resume review meeting. It seems a project for more and more people as jobs disappear.

What struck me for this Tidbit is how long three minutes seem to be while sitting silently watching sand slowly sift through the tube into the bulb below.

Today I am going to practice that process. I'm going to set the timer for, let's say 10 minutes and begin to pick up my bedroom. It has gotten a bit cluttered this past week, admittedly. Then I will pick another topic. The idea is to see what I can get done within a given amount of time.

I have experimented briefly before with this theory, and been very surprised at what can get done within two minutes. Now, I'm going to put the timer on, some music on and get busy.

I'll let you know what I discover. Without taking a step, nothing gets done.

Can you tell I have a bit of a focus challenge right now? Without a day job - there is nothing for me to NEED to specifically move for, getting accustomed to be ME is different - it is up to me to create that structured environment. This process might also be useful for people who have a day job, and don't seem to get around to getting "other" things done. It might be helpful for anyone with a "to do" list of any kind. Things that we have been tolerating, those myriad of small weights, which together can create havoc.

Not just for adults, create a game for your children -- create a goal, set the timer and create joy and value around the whole process. After all is not work then pay a reward system? I remember some fun activities I did with my children. I will share those as the days go by. I'm sure they had little financial cost, yet loads of fun.

Hey -- there are still a few "Squeeze Joy" silicone bands left. Great for gifts - part of a Christmas (holiday) grab bag - if your name is Joy, give it to your boyfriend or husband. Have questions? I typically have 2 for most things - send an email to itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com

It is Halloween though, and I might bite.
Happy Halloween!!!!!!

MAYA ANGELOU - A POEM

MAYA ANGELOU'S BEST POEM EVER

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ... enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ... something perfect to wear if the employer, or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .. a youth she's content to leave behind....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ... a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..... a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ... one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .... a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ... eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal, that will make her guests feel honored...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ... a feeling of control over her destiny..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... how to fall in love without losing herself..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... how to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without; ruining the friendship...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... that she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... that her childhood may not have been perfect..but it's over...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... how to live alone . even if she doesn't like it...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why she shouldn't take it personally...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... where to go... be it to her best friend's kitchen table... or a charming inn in th e woods... when her soul needs soothing...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... what she can and can't accomplish in a day... a month...and a year...

Best wishes for a Happy Monday. Consider selecting one to accomplish each year, or each month, or with a friend, or a coach, or a small group.

Men, please don't feel slighted - the word woman has the word "man" within. Pick one and have at it, or work with your spouse, friend, significant other to accomplish what you need or want.

"Sqeeze joy...."

Get What You Need - Instead of Being Angry

With lots of nudging from my Dr., I scheduled an appointment for a physical. It was not exactly easy to keep the appointment. I lost my day job at the end of September, and with it, my health insurance. So, I needed to schedule Cobra (yikes, it is expensive) for October. I have made other arrangements for the next few months (1/2 the cost of Cobra) until I get another day job.

I even asked and received a blood test slip, and had the blood test prior to the appointment. I arrived on the scheduled day at the scheduled time, and very quickly was advised that they did not have me scheduled for a physical that day. Apparently, someone else took my call and did not schedule the time correctly.

My first thought was to be angry, yet, I quickly realized what I truly wanted were the results of the blood test. As the nurse was making apologies, I asked if she could please provide the results of the blood test. I realized that was truly what I wanted to know. The cholesterol level, etc.

Within 10 minutes of my arrival I was preparing to leave. Everyone thanked me for being understanding about the circumstances, and not getting angry. I rescheduled the physical appointment for November, and left with the information I needed.

Also, I now had more time in my day to get the many other things done.

Apparently, anger is sometimes expected. When you don't comply, it benefits everyone.

*Please send ideas for getting a job in this current market. I am applying on the Internet, and I plan on physically showing up in a few businesses. Any thoughts on that procedure? They will be appreciated.*

BLOG DAY - POVERTY - WHAT CAN A PERSON DO?

A Tidbit:

The Answer to the Question of Poverty and what a person can do: Anything that you want to do will be beneficial. Now, please, simply do it.

Poverty is, unfortunately, endemic. Yet, it does not need to be. It is not all about the influx of money to solve the problem.

Every time you truly "LISTEN" to another, and provide support, without judgment, you are providing vast wealth to the other person. It does not necessarily take $$$$ that you do not have.

Suggestion: 1. Set aside some time to truly discover what is around you. Then determine the needs, and offer what time you can.

2. Be consistent. Once you decide your role, and create some time - be consistent. Many people have had fleeting support, and are distrustful of others.

3. Then, be open to discovery. You just might discover more from the experience than you believe you provide. Heard that before, yet not experienced it yet? Well then, don't you think it is time?

4. Make a Joyful Memory! Purchase a silicone bracelet or two - you will do both, benefit others and yourself. "Squeeze Joy Each Minute. Time Does Not Return, Yet Memories Do."

JOYFUL - JOYOUS -- SILICONE BRACELETS

These have been designed and created to assist everyone in having each day be full of joy!

Green & White Silicone Bracelet - $5.00
Black & White Silicone Bracelet - $5.00

Shipping & Handling for each mailed order (1-5 Bracelets) ADD - $1.30.**

***For a larger quantity, please email me at itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com for an estimate.

Please use Pay Pal -- Reference ----- It's Your Life Net.

30% Of The Proceeds Will Benefit (2) City of Rochester, NY Charities (see below)


"Squeeze Joy Each Minute. Time Does Not Return, Yet Memories Do."

These are the agencies that will benefit (they help individuals, who help other individuals, who............):

1. The Avenue-D Christian Reading Program

Peter and Debbie, in conjunction with the Avenue D Community Center, Charity Bible Baptist Church, Roberts Wesleyan College, School #8 and V.J. Stanley, Inc. have launched a reading program for city youth. The program includes food, fun, and rewards as children increase their ability to read, comprehend and begin to practice another way of thinking and living. The experience provides another paradigm to the surrounding environment of poverty, unemployment, and violence.

In the neighborhood:

39% have a high school education;
43% (16 and older) are not in the labor force;
School 8 is persistently on NY State Education Department’s list of dangerous schools;
2400 families form a population of 36,000 who live below poverty level (28.9%)

A Christian approach is used; however, the program is not about making someone wrong. It increases their self worth, as well as creating value for their family and the entire neighborhood.

The donation will be used to provide a part-time, paid, facilitator from the neighborhood. Currently they are relying on volunteers, mostly from outside the neighborhood.


2. Ford Street – Youth for Christ Basketball Program

Geoff and a group of volunteers offer an environment of basketball and camaraderie. It is complete with shirts, food, trophies and a banquet. This also is a Christian endeavor designed to provide support, entertainment, and a physical outlet away from hanging out on the streets. They also provide great discussions, answer questions and offer a Christian viewpoint through truth and love. At $50 each, the donation will allow more youth (boys and girls) to participate.

“Be the change you want to see in the world.” Mahatma Gandhi

Please email itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com with any questions. Thanks to EVERYONE who stops by this blog. You all inspire me - please continue to post comments, they are much appreciated.

SOMETHING SILLY, YET .....

http://www.groundwire.net/funwire.htm

There are silly games, on this site. You decide if they are suitable for your children. They remind me of old cartoons when they would bang each other around a bit. Groundwire is a link I discovered on klove.com. 104.9 in Rochester, NY, is the K-Love radio station. There is a station list on the site, if you are not in upstate NY, for example.

Here is today's - A Tidbit. How are my friends Roy, and the group from SU doing this fall and all of you others that pass by this blog? I'm excited about the gas prices coming down, yet not so about the stock market and the job market and the housing market and, and, and. How are you all doing? How about we begin a how do you save..... or, actually, continue, yet broaden the topic a bit with this community.

Now that we have lots of ideas about how to save gas, and I, for one, am continuing with those ideas, what other ideas do you have that we could try, or share? Is anyone saving at the grocery store? I think I might this week discover what you can make with a couple eggs, and whatever else is in my fridge.

Namaste!

LOVE - LOVE - LOVE

"For small creatures such as we, the vastness is bearable only through love." - Carl Sagan

A thought for today - to ahhhh, simply be in love with yourself, with your neighbor, with your car (even if it sputters), with the rain, with the clouds, with your job, with the person on your job who typically brings a frown to your face, and with the day in general.

Take a minute and smile at someone right to their eyes. Take a minute and open a door, and hold it for the next two people. Take a minute and hug your kids, regardless of their age. They will groan, yet inwardly smile. Take a minute to connect with someone who has been on your mind. Take a minute to smile - knowing there will be many more minutes to wrinkle your forehead and frown.

I found myself smiling thinking of you smiling - thank you for that gift.

TOUGH TIMES ECONOMICALLY

Yesterday, it took me 1/2 the day to make a decision on something I thought about doing. With all the bank and financial collapses, I finally made the decision that I may be a tiny pebble in the ocean; yet, even one small pebble creates a ripple.

What caught my attention yesterday was the announcement by Citicorp that it was suing Wells Fargo and Wachovia to acquire Wachovia. That actually incensed me to consider and finally send an email comment.

Citicorp, of course, has the right in the US to sue anyone. Yet, given the current economic condition and one reason, among many, is greed, Citicorp to me seems predatory, greedy, and just using muscle. They are suing for 60 million dollars. Even 1/2 of that amount donated to Habitat or another very worthy organization would be so attractive. I might even have switched banks.

I was grateful to hear today that the lawsuit is on hold. That is something I'm currently paying attention to.

Today, October 8, 2008 I paid attention, and this is what I noticed: NEW YORK (Fortune) -- Meredith Whitney, the über-bearish bank-stock analyst at Oppenheimer & Co., continues to tell clients to steer clear of the financial sector. But Whitney makes one exception: She tells Fortune that she likes the preferred shares of the "strong" U.S. banks - JPMorgan Chase, Bank of America, and Wells Fargo.

Citicorp is not listed. Don't misunderstand me, I'm not happy about that. The list is getting smaller. Citicorp used to be No. 1, as a former JP Morgan Chase employee, they were wanna bees with regard to size. Actually, JP Morgan Chase was swallowed up by Bank One about 3 years ago, and kept the JP Morgan Chase name. So that, actually, is a horse of a different color.

My hope is not for Citicorp to get dashed, it is for all "power mongers" to recheck their values and ethics and begin to play the business game like the "good" kids playing in a sand box who have watchful parents near by. There are rules of etiquette that appear to have been forgotten. In particular the golden rule. See list in John C. Maxwell's book, "Ethics 101," on page 17.

"Christianity: 'Whenever you want men to do to you, do also to them.' Matthew 7:12

Judaism: 'What is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow man. This is the entire law; all the rest is commentary.' Talmud, Shabbat 31a, quote in "The University of the Golden rule in World Religion," www.teaching-values.com, 23 September 2002

Islam: 'No one of you is a believer until he loves for his neighbor what he loves for himself.' The Traditions of Mohammed, quoted at www.thegoldenrule.net, 23 September 2002."

These are examples.

SAY - and NOT DO?

Do you say and not do? It might seem insignificant, yet the world is listening. A year ago I had a thought, which became repetitive. Then I began to verbalize it, yet, it did not become reality. Well, stay tuned, that thought is becoming real. I will be sharing it with the world beginning Monday, October 13th. In time to celebrate Columbus Day!!!

It has taken me a year to think, say and then do. And today, I choose to not wonder why (OK, it is hard not to).

This thought began as a draft blog post weeks ago, yet today, it has evolved. Two weeks ago I purchased a post-note pad, having forgotten about this draft post. The saying is, "After all is said and done, more is said than done."

It could be bragging with nothing to back it up. It could be promises, not fulfilled. It could be, "I should," "I could," phrases thought over and over again.

Suggestion: Start with itty bitty (for some) or bigger bittys (for others) and do what you say or think. Or, make the decision to simply -- GET OVER IT. Move past - if it has been a long time, perhaps leave it for someone else to do. Pick another thought. Or, DO IT. I used to drive my son crazy with a saying I heard from a friend. "You can DO DO DO IT, If You put YOUR MIND To It."

So - stay tuned for Monday, October 13th - and, for those who have been asking, it is not a book, yet. That will be a bit longer process.