We and They

"That which we call sin in others is experiment for us." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

And, please stay strong, as the other person really does not complete you, they can enhance, benefit, they can also drain and discourage.

Each relationship is unique, as unique as the people within it. Sometimes there is no right or wrong they are simply doing what comes easiest for them. Rather than stand and work or stand and identify or stand and simply be for a time, some need to feel they are moving in a direction not always known; yet, moving feels correct. The "easy" thing to do is to move on - similar to changing jobs or changing clothes.

Some are listening to what others think -

There is no right or wrong answer as what is "right" for one can be "wrong" for another.

Suggestion: Support your friends - ask for support, not opinions - and unplug, perhaps for specific segments of the day. Eat a meal together, cook a meal together, admit sadness, share what brings happiness and joy.

Please try to avoid: "you always, I never," - "you should" "why."
Perhaps, choose - "This is how I feel,..." "Please talk with me..." "I am sorry..... honestly "

Again, there is no pattern or diagram for resolution - the relationship, needs to matter, it needs to be a priority.

"The fresh start is always an illusion but a necessary one." - Eleanor Clark

7 Year Itch -

Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony - 7 years

There are many other couples that I could use as examples of the 7-Year Itch or crisis that seems to occur at that 7-year mark.

On the outside looking in and looking back there were grumblings and disconnects that were obvious and left to fester, grow and undermine. Eyes, ears and thoughts move to others who are happy, laughing and carefree - oh, where are those days? He does not listen, she does not understand, he does not care, she is too busy, he is too busy, he loses his job, she loses her job, there is a crisis, he is, she is, he is, she is.

It is not, she is not, he is not, we are not - they are, she is , he is, it is. We were.

It does not happen overnight. The beginning, the middle and then the end.

Right now in the heat, as things are slowing down from necessity - those lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer. Whatever level of your relationship........

Suggestion: Stop - pay attention - fertilize your relationship, water it, pluck the weeds, give it some shade and take the heat off and relieve some stress. Return your attention to each other - let go of what "others" think and find out what your loved ones think. Have lemons, make lemonade.

Freedom - July 4th - Give thanks and celebrate

Good Morning - Perhaps not what you may think when see this picture. LOL - Typically there are marching bands and flags waving. Yes that is very true and very much a part of this celebration July 4th is all about the freedoms provided by our forefathers that we continue to enjoy today.

Thought for the day - consider yourself a Freedom Ambassador.

When hear someone complain - wish them a Happy July 4th Freedom Day or something else that you create which rather than complain about their complaint - offer them a different perspective. You may hear them differently as Freedom creates the opportunity for people to complain or to discuss or to rant or to get on their "high horse" or to share God - basically to share what is on their mind.

And, also to blog as I have done for a few years.

Happy July 4th