Simply said, I saw my first Robin this spring. I immediately began to breath more freely and easy with the thought that spring is approaching, perhaps slowly, yet it is approaching.
Such is just about everything in life, yet there are exceptions. Yesterday a very dear, close friend learned her job was being eliminated. In fact the company is closing the whole site in our city. Then as we discussed last night, it is something like seeing the Robin. It was thought about, yet not visible until the announcement yesterday and it will take a few months to officially close.
Sighting a Robin in spring generates refreshing, light, sunny feelings, feelings of bright possibilities.
Job eliminations tend to prompt feelings of fear, caution, uncertainty and lack.
Both create feelings and, guess what -- there is NO RIGHT or WRONG. Your feelings are you OWN - you own them. Don't let ANYONE tell you your feelings are wrong. They may be wrong for the other person, yet they are yours. The person with the same experience is having their own feelings prompting their own emotions.
Suggestion: Check in with your feelings more often. Perhaps even a bit more than with your mind. People can help, yet, remember, these belong to you. Your feelings will tell you what is really happening. Dig in to find the true feeling. If you think it is anger, well, anger is an emotion -- discover the feeling behind the anger. Are you sad? Sadness is an emotion -- dig in to discover the feeling. Are you happy? Great, what is the feeling.
Squeeze the joy - the minutes pass - there is seldom an opportunity to do over.
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Thursday, March 27, 2008
Sunday, March 23, 2008
FOR NEW READERS AND A REMINDER ......
–A Tidbit was created with a concept that bits and thoughts would be an easier place to begin if you choose to make a change or reprogram paradigms. It was not designed to suggest that you are RIGHT or WRONG in anything that you do.
–A Tidbit was and continues to consist of ideas, thoughts, and concepts that extend from LOVE and PEACE as I walk with faith in God. It brings with it humungous wishes for each of you that, if you are not there yet, you will begin to find your place within a life whose source is LOVE and PEACE.
Namaste
–A Tidbit was and continues to consist of ideas, thoughts, and concepts that extend from LOVE and PEACE as I walk with faith in God. It brings with it humungous wishes for each of you that, if you are not there yet, you will begin to find your place within a life whose source is LOVE and PEACE.
Namaste
HAPPY EASTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
BEST WISHES FOR A HAPPY EASTER!!!!
I truly pray that you all have fresh air in your minds this Easter Sunday in 2008. If like many you have trashed New Year's resolutions, then Easter is a wonderful time to begin again with a fresh approach, a fresh, clean chalk board.
The discussion of Right or Wrong can move on today to the fact that you are Perfect with who you are. Return to the "kid" who was extremely happy without others placing burdens on you with thoughts of "Study hard and you will become somebody." The issue for me with that sentence is "become somebody." When you began you were the same somebody you are today, yet without the baggage and the expectations others place on you and that you accepted within.
Begin to thread through, and when you bump up against something that simply does not feel right. Question it.
Happy, Happy Easter and Squeeze the Joy from the Minutes/Seconds
I truly pray that you all have fresh air in your minds this Easter Sunday in 2008. If like many you have trashed New Year's resolutions, then Easter is a wonderful time to begin again with a fresh approach, a fresh, clean chalk board.
The discussion of Right or Wrong can move on today to the fact that you are Perfect with who you are. Return to the "kid" who was extremely happy without others placing burdens on you with thoughts of "Study hard and you will become somebody." The issue for me with that sentence is "become somebody." When you began you were the same somebody you are today, yet without the baggage and the expectations others place on you and that you accepted within.
Begin to thread through, and when you bump up against something that simply does not feel right. Question it.
Happy, Happy Easter and Squeeze the Joy from the Minutes/Seconds
Saturday, March 22, 2008
WHY ARE YOU ASKING?
This used to be me. I would think of something, create something, and then ask people what they thought? It paralyzed me in so many ways, now that I look back.
When we look to other people for validation with questions such as, "What do you think of this," or "Would you read this please, and tell me what you think?"
Before I continue - it is great to check in with what others are thinking; however, if what they say becomes who you try to be, well............
When you ask, and get an answer that is different from yours -- it can seem to be that you are "wrong" and they have become "right."
My suggestion is -- think again, before accepting, responding, or acting on the reply to the question asked. Sometimes simply saying something out loud will help. Or, ask someone else what they think. Get the "second opinion."
If it is a piece of writing - send it to 100 publishers before you re-evaluate, perhaps. Or your max might be 50. Show it to 10 galleries before you use your masterpiece for target shooting. Or, simply, stash it away, for another day. (Unabashed advertisement - or hire a coach and discover what YOU TRULY THINK, under all that "stuff".
Suggestion: Removing attachment will change your vision. Unless there is a deadline, step away from the creation and review it when the ego is asleep. After all, the people you asked, may have been using their ego also. And, ego, is a whole new subject that reared it's ugly head, interesting.
Squeeze the joy!
When we look to other people for validation with questions such as, "What do you think of this," or "Would you read this please, and tell me what you think?"
Before I continue - it is great to check in with what others are thinking; however, if what they say becomes who you try to be, well............
When you ask, and get an answer that is different from yours -- it can seem to be that you are "wrong" and they have become "right."
My suggestion is -- think again, before accepting, responding, or acting on the reply to the question asked. Sometimes simply saying something out loud will help. Or, ask someone else what they think. Get the "second opinion."
If it is a piece of writing - send it to 100 publishers before you re-evaluate, perhaps. Or your max might be 50. Show it to 10 galleries before you use your masterpiece for target shooting. Or, simply, stash it away, for another day. (Unabashed advertisement - or hire a coach and discover what YOU TRULY THINK, under all that "stuff".
Suggestion: Removing attachment will change your vision. Unless there is a deadline, step away from the creation and review it when the ego is asleep. After all, the people you asked, may have been using their ego also. And, ego, is a whole new subject that reared it's ugly head, interesting.
Squeeze the joy!
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
DO YOU "LIVE" BY THE WORDS YOU EXPRESS
"As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them." -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy
This quote caught my attention today when thinking of the very thoughtful comment recently left on this blog. The comment, as I read, suggests that some people are uncomfortable giving compliments or expressing appreciation. Is this because they don't have enough reserve of their own to share with others, or simply have not had enough practice.
Have you ever heard someone utter a complement in passing - "Great job" or "You all Rock," and believe that it was absorbed and appreciated. Sometimes compliments or messages of gratitude and appreciation are about the giver and not the receiver.
I, personally, am aware that the more open I am to receive, appreciate, understand and experience the difference in others, that the more often I am living in integrity.
OK - here is a word that JUMPED out at me today, I did not use it in the above post - yet, here it is to share -- "expound" = explain, expand on, talk about, illustrate, etc. I simply think it is a cool word, and will consider how to include it in a future post.
I am simply going to continue to become more aware of the words that I use, and to live my life the same.
Cheers
This quote caught my attention today when thinking of the very thoughtful comment recently left on this blog. The comment, as I read, suggests that some people are uncomfortable giving compliments or expressing appreciation. Is this because they don't have enough reserve of their own to share with others, or simply have not had enough practice.
Have you ever heard someone utter a complement in passing - "Great job" or "You all Rock," and believe that it was absorbed and appreciated. Sometimes compliments or messages of gratitude and appreciation are about the giver and not the receiver.
I, personally, am aware that the more open I am to receive, appreciate, understand and experience the difference in others, that the more often I am living in integrity.
OK - here is a word that JUMPED out at me today, I did not use it in the above post - yet, here it is to share -- "expound" = explain, expand on, talk about, illustrate, etc. I simply think it is a cool word, and will consider how to include it in a future post.
I am simply going to continue to become more aware of the words that I use, and to live my life the same.
Cheers
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
CAN BLACK & WHITE CHANGE TO GREY?
What are the reader's thoughts on this subject...?
Need to be Right -- Many people need to have the last word on a subject - I know a person like that, yet he softened with age; he is now 33. A very, very bright person who had little patience sometimes with someone who did not "get" it right away. My experience is that maturity can help.
Yet many people who lack support and validation while growing up, MIGHT have a need to be heard and/or accepted. There are SO many factors that can contribute to believers of black & or white, that this blog would lose its name, A Tidbit.
Yet my question is -- What can someone do when communicating with someone who needs to be Right?
Suggestion:
Key #1: Listen, or not, yet respond do not react.
Key #2: Do not respond OR react. Many times nothing needs to be said.
Key #3: Ask a basic question -- Is this from belief or knowledge?
Key #4: Try - this can be challenging - to not be attached to an answer or response.
Remember, you are speaking to another person who has a need to be Right -- the idea is that you don't. Stay calm, relaxed and open to whatever happens.
Have fun with this -- any ideas from readers of this blog? Please share, as this topic is generating some buzz, based on the amount of comments so far. Oh, it is not into double or triple digits, yet each visitor is appreciated here.
Hey - squeeze the joy!
Need to be Right -- Many people need to have the last word on a subject - I know a person like that, yet he softened with age; he is now 33. A very, very bright person who had little patience sometimes with someone who did not "get" it right away. My experience is that maturity can help.
Yet many people who lack support and validation while growing up, MIGHT have a need to be heard and/or accepted. There are SO many factors that can contribute to believers of black & or white, that this blog would lose its name, A Tidbit.
Yet my question is -- What can someone do when communicating with someone who needs to be Right?
Suggestion:
Key #1: Listen, or not, yet respond do not react.
Key #2: Do not respond OR react. Many times nothing needs to be said.
Key #3: Ask a basic question -- Is this from belief or knowledge?
Key #4: Try - this can be challenging - to not be attached to an answer or response.
Remember, you are speaking to another person who has a need to be Right -- the idea is that you don't. Stay calm, relaxed and open to whatever happens.
Have fun with this -- any ideas from readers of this blog? Please share, as this topic is generating some buzz, based on the amount of comments so far. Oh, it is not into double or triple digits, yet each visitor is appreciated here.
Hey - squeeze the joy!
Sunday, March 16, 2008
WRONG OR RIGHT = BLACK AND WHITE?
Is the concept of WRONG OR RIGHT = to the concept of BLACK or WHITE? Oh, I'm not talking racially, religiously, ethnically, etc. - what I'm moving toward is when people often consider concepts, thoughts, ideas strictly as being Wrong or Right. I equate that to Black or White.
When a person's mind doesn't consider fuzz, or shades of gray to be evident, then is their mind closed to another person's opinion or concept.
Basically, the question moves to -- Does it lead to being judgmental and opinionated and/or to insecure and vulnerable on the opposite end? This is what my mind is considering at the moment with this current discussion of RIGHT or WRONG - WRONG or RIGHT.
Thank you soooooo much for your thoughts on this subject, and I'm considering a teleclass on this subject. It was great to hear from Syracuse Univ. - (how did you find me on Yahoo?) I would love to return to formal education, yet that may have to wait until another life. The concept is, at this moment, to "play" with these subjects.
Moving away from RIGHT & WRONG softens edges, lightens conversations, creates opportunity.
This is -A Tidbit - enough for this post. More to come --
Squeeze the joy out of EVERY Second - they don't return.
When a person's mind doesn't consider fuzz, or shades of gray to be evident, then is their mind closed to another person's opinion or concept.
Basically, the question moves to -- Does it lead to being judgmental and opinionated and/or to insecure and vulnerable on the opposite end? This is what my mind is considering at the moment with this current discussion of RIGHT or WRONG - WRONG or RIGHT.
Thank you soooooo much for your thoughts on this subject, and I'm considering a teleclass on this subject. It was great to hear from Syracuse Univ. - (how did you find me on Yahoo?) I would love to return to formal education, yet that may have to wait until another life. The concept is, at this moment, to "play" with these subjects.
Moving away from RIGHT & WRONG softens edges, lightens conversations, creates opportunity.
This is -A Tidbit - enough for this post. More to come --
Squeeze the joy out of EVERY Second - they don't return.
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