WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?

I had another thought today, and as usual, wanted to share. The question came to me -- What are people waiting for? If you are reading this blog, or falling asleep with another book of how to or when to or ..... What are you searching for?

You can leave an anonomous note if you would like - yet, curiosity has occurred again in me. What do you need? What is attracting you? What is in your way? Thoughts of "it" being too late in life, simply don't know, not enough time, money or knowledge?

You are the audience stopping into this blog. I can better serve if I understand who is in the neighborhood.

Welcome if you are new, welcome back if you are not. Care to play this year?

RESOLUTIONS and.......

It's January, typically resolution alley, fitness mentality, changes are coming for sure. This is the year to achieve all that you have wanted to achieve.

Question: What is going to sustain the changes you make after you expend the effort to make them? Is this a true desire of yours? i.e. You want to lose weight. Do you want to change jobs, do you want to let go of...., do you want to......., ???????

OK, great, yet, what difference will it make for you? How will your life change? What will you do differently when you lose the weight, change jobs, let go......?

Have you thought about it and not succeeded in the past? I say here -- so what. That was then, this is now.

Step 1: What is your purpose?
Step 2: What will be different?
Step 3: How will you feel when you make the change?
Step 4: What will it look like - draw a picture, make a list, -- make it come alive.
Step 5: What support do you have? A group, a coach, a plan (use a calendar, perhaps).
Step 6: Incremental rewards - yipee!!!!
Step 7: Make sure you are doing this for YOURSELF, not because someone or others say it's important. This is for YOU, initially. Yet, when YOU feel better, it will reflect onto others in the way you are seen.

Ahhh Emerson quotes -

"...for everything you miss you gain something else"

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 - 1882)

So -- what does that tell you. And, when relationships are over, it is up to each individual when the gain arrives vs. sadness, missing, emptiness, anger, frustration, hurt, etc.

Personally, I like the sound of gain, it is much lighter and brighter -- so much better than words that have weight and darkness.

Move into the light -- gain.

Namaste

UNDER CONSTRUCTION

Please note that the ads on this post are not intended. I am spiritual; however, I am not preaching and do not intend to preach. I have no connection with the ads posted on the site, and I am striving to remove many of the religious ads. This is a new process for my site, as those who check in often can attest.

I think it can have value when it is set up right. This is another example of stepping into a new framework, job, relationship, etc. There definitely is a period of growth, learning and understanding that takes place.

Thank you to all who read and appreciate this blog, and to others who stop by. It would be appreciated if you would post a comment and constructive criticism is welcome.


Have fun creating a successful day!

PLACE BLAME -- OR WHAT HAVE I MISSED?

Many people, when a relationship is over, begin to place blame, feel guilty, become depressed, criticize themselves, etc. etc. What power did the other person take with them. It is almost as if the "other" person is more important, and the thoughts are all around the "other" person and not the self.

The end of a relationship is the perfect time to take care of self. Consider all the things that were missing in the relationship which you can now do for yourself.

I realized that many of the things I like to do were missing. Sitting in a coffee shop, listening to classical music, eating more healthy, and not sitting in a bar or watching golf every Sunday. My roommate and I have just planned our schedule through the next two weekends, and each day is different. I love that.

As time moves forward, I have too, and realize that I have so much more without him. I very much appreciate the lessons learned; yet, I have more smiles, more joy, more happiness, more awareness, more opportunities, more adventures, more......

Suggestion: Take the time to relax and think. Then, do that thing that you haven't been doing, yet you miss.

Life is rich - please don't miss a minute.

NEEDS? TIME TO CHECK IN AGAIN - SEMI ANNUAL EXAM

I was speaking to a man recently - and I mentioned that I had spoken with his wife. He said, "I hope she was nicer to you than she is with me." At first I was uncertain how to, or if, I needed to respond. Then I simply said, "What are you doing?" He said, "I think it is what I am not doing." I then replied, "Perhaps, ask what she needs."

He then stood there for a couple minutes. He then said "Hmmm."

I likely will not know the outcome of that conversation. Yet, I do know it caused me to ask myself -- what do I need. Needs change for everyone. What you need today, might not be what you need next year. I also had a conversation with a recent college graduate about needs. He quickly understood my question and replied, "It's true. I don't need what I wanted two or three years ago, that is interesting."

People can get caught up with what or how they did something in the past. Or, perhaps, notice what someone else has and believe they need it too.

Needs - oh, I don't mean the basics, like food, shelter, etc. Well, for some, that is exactly what they need. Yet gratefully, at the moment, my needs are less obvious, yet, when met, they truly are fulfilling. The need to be understood. Begin to speak more clearly, take time to choose the right words.

There can be something really cool and wonderful about checking in with yourself once in awhile. What do you need? It is a simple straightforward question, yet one that goes unasked. The answers can be surprising.

Namaste

STEP INTO 2008

continuing what is working and removing what is not.

Before the first day of the New Year escapes, take a few minutes and begin to consider a plan. It could be -A Tidbit, yet, whatever it is write it down under Mission/Goals for 2008. Don't let anything pass by, as it may grow without your focus. Put your thoughts on paper and set them aside until the 2nd week of January. Take another look and then begin to either add, edit, delete, embellish, or, simply put it aside again for another week or a few days.

THEN -- pick one or two and stretch them out and mush them up and chew on them a bit. As 2008 grows and evolves so will you.

If it is exercise you want, begin with 5 minutes each day. Perhaps something different each day until you find what you truly enjoy -- note -- en JOY. Then increase to 10 minutes or 15.

The most important thing you can do is to start. Achievement cannot happen unless there is a beginning.

All that a man achieves and all that he fails to achieve are a direct result of his own thoughts." James Allen

What are you thinking?