POSTER HUNT - CAN YOU HELP?

The above is a framed poster that hangs in a local restaurant. Might anyone know, or know someone who might know where I might be able to acquire this poster? I think this poster very cool, and with an Internet search I did not find it. So, I'm asking for a little help into the universe at large. Help, please.

Namaste

FLATTERY COMES UNEXPECTEDLY

Unexpected flattery from another coach with a comment,
"Benjamin Moore has almost a zillion shades of white to choose from in its White Palette." I call it flattery, as another coach took the time to post on my site and seeks to attract readers to his.

(Note, corrected the spelling of Benjamin. Not a criticism, just a fact, and I've been there too.)

I thank Barry for his time and the comment and the link to another prospective - all which I applaud loudly. And, of course, I could not let the comment go without posting my thoughts on it. I had a feeling, and took a minute - or two, to check it out.

Does the concept of a zillion of anything help when thinking of changing something? Yikes, what do you do with a zillion, how to make a selection, a choice, even have a favorite. Best I could do is, well, boil it down to maybe 10,000 out of a zillion, and that is optimistic.

Does that mean that on a sliding scale, it will take a zillion somethings - like seconds, minutes, hours, or days in time to move along the scale from white to grey?

Suggestion: Skip the zillions comment and simply check out his blog post for another perspective. Hey, let me know what you think, I'm curious, as always. Want to make a change? One way is to - simply, do it. Go back to being 5- 10 years old again and play with it. If you want to be a rock star, get that new video game "Rock Band." If you want to be a good cook -- cook something. If you want a nice garden - take a picture of a spot at different times of the day sun and without. Think of what you want - tall flowers, short flowers, the colors and scents. Go to a garden store and ask questions.

Squeeze the joy, at least a zillion times! Now that is an interesting thought!!!!!!!!

Flattery maybe, next. Stay tuned

FIRST ROBIN THIS SPRING

Simply said, I saw my first Robin this spring. I immediately began to breath more freely and easy with the thought that spring is approaching, perhaps slowly, yet it is approaching.

Such is just about everything in life, yet there are exceptions. Yesterday a very dear, close friend learned her job was being eliminated. In fact the company is closing the whole site in our city. Then as we discussed last night, it is something like seeing the Robin. It was thought about, yet not visible until the announcement yesterday and it will take a few months to officially close.

Sighting a Robin in spring generates refreshing, light, sunny feelings, feelings of bright possibilities.

Job eliminations tend to prompt feelings of fear, caution, uncertainty and lack.

Both create feelings and, guess what -- there is NO RIGHT or WRONG. Your feelings are you OWN - you own them. Don't let ANYONE tell you your feelings are wrong. They may be wrong for the other person, yet they are yours. The person with the same experience is having their own feelings prompting their own emotions.

Suggestion: Check in with your feelings more often. Perhaps even a bit more than with your mind. People can help, yet, remember, these belong to you. Your feelings will tell you what is really happening. Dig in to find the true feeling. If you think it is anger, well, anger is an emotion -- discover the feeling behind the anger. Are you sad? Sadness is an emotion -- dig in to discover the feeling. Are you happy? Great, what is the feeling.

Squeeze the joy - the minutes pass - there is seldom an opportunity to do over.

FOR NEW READERS AND A REMINDER ......

–A Tidbit was created with a concept that bits and thoughts would be an easier place to begin if you choose to make a change or reprogram paradigms. It was not designed to suggest that you are RIGHT or WRONG in anything that you do.

–A Tidbit was and continues to consist of ideas, thoughts, and concepts that extend from LOVE and PEACE as I walk with faith in God. It brings with it humungous wishes for each of you that, if you are not there yet, you will begin to find your place within a life whose source is LOVE and PEACE.

Namaste

HAPPY EASTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

BEST WISHES FOR A HAPPY EASTER!!!!

I truly pray that you all have fresh air in your minds this Easter Sunday in 2008. If like many you have trashed New Year's resolutions, then Easter is a wonderful time to begin again with a fresh approach, a fresh, clean chalk board.

The discussion of Right or Wrong can move on today to the fact that you are Perfect with who you are. Return to the "kid" who was extremely happy without others placing burdens on you with thoughts of "Study hard and you will become somebody." The issue for me with that sentence is "become somebody." When you began you were the same somebody you are today, yet without the baggage and the expectations others place on you and that you accepted within.

Begin to thread through, and when you bump up against something that simply does not feel right. Question it.

Happy, Happy Easter and Squeeze the Joy from the Minutes/Seconds

WHY ARE YOU ASKING?

This used to be me. I would think of something, create something, and then ask people what they thought? It paralyzed me in so many ways, now that I look back.

When we look to other people for validation with questions such as, "What do you think of this," or "Would you read this please, and tell me what you think?"

Before I continue - it is great to check in with what others are thinking; however, if what they say becomes who you try to be, well............

When you ask, and get an answer that is different from yours -- it can seem to be that you are "wrong" and they have become "right."

My suggestion is -- think again, before accepting, responding, or acting on the reply to the question asked. Sometimes simply saying something out loud will help. Or, ask someone else what they think. Get the "second opinion."

If it is a piece of writing - send it to 100 publishers before you re-evaluate, perhaps. Or your max might be 50. Show it to 10 galleries before you use your masterpiece for target shooting. Or, simply, stash it away, for another day. (Unabashed advertisement - or hire a coach and discover what YOU TRULY THINK, under all that "stuff".

Suggestion: Removing attachment will change your vision. Unless there is a deadline, step away from the creation and review it when the ego is asleep. After all, the people you asked, may have been using their ego also. And, ego, is a whole new subject that reared it's ugly head, interesting.

Squeeze the joy!

DO YOU "LIVE" BY THE WORDS YOU EXPRESS

"As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them." -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy

This quote caught my attention today when thinking of the very thoughtful comment recently left on this blog. The comment, as I read, suggests that some people are uncomfortable giving compliments or expressing appreciation. Is this because they don't have enough reserve of their own to share with others, or simply have not had enough practice.

Have you ever heard someone utter a complement in passing - "Great job" or "You all Rock," and believe that it was absorbed and appreciated. Sometimes compliments or messages of gratitude and appreciation are about the giver and not the receiver.

I, personally, am aware that the more open I am to receive, appreciate, understand and experience the difference in others, that the more often I am living in integrity.

OK - here is a word that JUMPED out at me today, I did not use it in the above post - yet, here it is to share -- "expound" = explain, expand on, talk about, illustrate, etc. I simply think it is a cool word, and will consider how to include it in a future post.

I am simply going to continue to become more aware of the words that I use, and to live my life the same.

Cheers

CAN BLACK & WHITE CHANGE TO GREY?

What are the reader's thoughts on this subject...?

Need to be Right -- Many people need to have the last word on a subject - I know a person like that, yet he softened with age; he is now 33. A very, very bright person who had little patience sometimes with someone who did not "get" it right away. My experience is that maturity can help.

Yet many people who lack support and validation while growing up, MIGHT have a need to be heard and/or accepted. There are SO many factors that can contribute to believers of black & or white, that this blog would lose its name, A Tidbit.

Yet my question is -- What can someone do when communicating with someone who needs to be Right?

Suggestion:

Key #1: Listen, or not, yet respond do not react.

Key #2: Do not respond OR react. Many times nothing needs to be said.

Key #3: Ask a basic question -- Is this from belief or knowledge?

Key #4: Try - this can be challenging - to not be attached to an answer or response.

Remember, you are speaking to another person who has a need to be Right -- the idea is that you don't. Stay calm, relaxed and open to whatever happens.

Have fun with this -- any ideas from readers of this blog? Please share, as this topic is generating some buzz, based on the amount of comments so far. Oh, it is not into double or triple digits, yet each visitor is appreciated here.

Hey - squeeze the joy!

WRONG OR RIGHT = BLACK AND WHITE?

Is the concept of WRONG OR RIGHT = to the concept of BLACK or WHITE? Oh, I'm not talking racially, religiously, ethnically, etc. - what I'm moving toward is when people often consider concepts, thoughts, ideas strictly as being Wrong or Right. I equate that to Black or White.

When a person's mind doesn't consider fuzz, or shades of gray to be evident, then is their mind closed to another person's opinion or concept.

Basically, the question moves to -- Does it lead to being judgmental and opinionated and/or to insecure and vulnerable on the opposite end? This is what my mind is considering at the moment with this current discussion of RIGHT or WRONG - WRONG or RIGHT.

Thank you soooooo much for your thoughts on this subject, and I'm considering a teleclass on this subject. It was great to hear from Syracuse Univ. - (how did you find me on Yahoo?) I would love to return to formal education, yet that may have to wait until another life. The concept is, at this moment, to "play" with these subjects.

Moving away from RIGHT & WRONG softens edges, lightens conversations, creates opportunity.

This is -A Tidbit - enough for this post. More to come --
Squeeze the joy out of EVERY Second - they don't return.

ARE YOU RIGHT OR WRONG? DOES IT MATTER?

Simply stated -- when you are proved Right in front of someone, that means that person is Wrong. If you are proved to be Wrong, the other person becomes Right.

Is Right or Wrong really and truly important. Or is it the truth, the real, and the factual information that is important.

During tests, quizzes and other methods of learning and displaying knowledge or understanding, there is a right and wrong answer. These are information and truth based scenarios. Yet during conversations, what difference does it make if someone is right or wrong?

From my perspective, what makes a difference is the information relayed or shared is correct and factual.

Thought: The next time a theory or thought is proved to be "wrong," or "right," instead of thinking and saying - "You're Right," or "You're Wrong," try saying: "Thank you for making that more clear," or "That is interesting, I will try that," or "Let's put that information in the report, instead of what is currently there," or "Great catch, thanks for picking up on that point...."

How do those ideas sound instead of simply stating -- You're Right - or You're Wrong?
Any other thoughts on this subject? Please share - I love this topic.

PROBLEM WITH EDITING

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It's the weekend, I'm day job hunting - thought I would mention that with the idea of networking. To continue blogging, I am in the hunt for a day job. If there are any ideas, please post a comment or send an email to itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com.

Squeeze the joy!

ANOTHER SLEEP ON IT THOUGHT.........

Don't sin by letting anger control you. Think about it overnight and remain silent.

Psalm 4:4, NLT

Good advice from another source -- other than the famous - "Sleep on it," Perhaps this is where that saying came from. Other possibilities - count to 10, think again. In the area where I live there is a saying -- "If you don't like the weather, just wait 15 minutes."

Suggestion: Respond - instead of reacting. Easier said than done, you might say. Practice might be the best method. Pick something easy perhaps, and then progress to more challenging situation.

This was in an email from klove.com today -- felt a need to post.

Squeeze the joy!

PLEASE NOTE - RE ADS ON THIS BLOG

The ads placed on this blog are to offer tools and other avenues of information and ways to facilitate choices; they do not generate sustainable amounts of revenue. I have checked out a few of them - not by clicking; I check them out directly by using the links they provide. The ads that I do not agree with I add to a filter that blocks them from appearing again.

If you notice any ads that you believe are disagreeable, please let me know. I will include them to the filter.

PACKAGING CAN DISTRACT -----

"Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee in it." I picked up this quote in an email today. It is from a story about a professor who invited his students in for coffee and a chat. He had several types of coffee cups sitting on the table for their use, some fancy, some mugs, etc.

When they were all sitting, all of the fancy cups had been selected. The focus was not on the content, it was on the outside. Or, did most people think that, it is about both. The content and how it is packaged is important. Now, if the test was that the "better" coffee was in the "plain" mugs and the "foo foo" mugs had watered down coffee, that might provide a more interesting situation. Yet, either way .........

Suggestion - get clear and specific on the target, the goal, the vision, the intention, the need, or the desire you want and then don't get distracted with tinsel, bows and loud music. Yet, if that "perfect" or series of perfect attributes are in attractive packaging, don't let that scare you either. Pretty things can be amazing, yet so can the opposite. The important thing is to get very, very, very clear on what you want. You just might find it in the strangest places. Simply stated - it might be in the details.

CHAIR GLUE

Welcome to an inexpensive new product designed to enhance and create a productive work environment.

"Chair Glue" -- I have been procrastinating lately, sound familiar to anyone? I had heard this term a few years ago, and decided today is the perfect day to put the new product to use. Armed with a cup of tea, a clock (to monitor for my next appointment), and the keyboard, here I am. A specific amount of time has been allotted.

Suggestion: Depending on how far behind you are with a project, begin slowly and build up steam. Perhaps segment one hour or two, and increase "Chair Glue" time as needed.

As usual, it has been fun sharing the thoughts that come into my mind. Thanks for reading, thanks for commenting, and I look forward to meeting you here again the next time.

Please continue to comment what you like - what topics you might like to get my thoughts on - send me a quote - I love thinking on them too. Above all thank you very much - you all are my inspiration.

Squeeze the joy!

WHAT ARE YOU MISSING, IF NOT LISTENING?

"Nature gave us one tongue and two ears so we could hear twice as much as we speak."
Epictetus

Suggestion, with quotes, before truly considering them, I suggest that the person quoted be known and their motives be understood as containing similar values to your own.

I truly appreciate comments, and one person recently commented that he likes quotes, and, in fact, he is taking a class in quotes.

Joseph Stalin, I'm sure is quoted, yet do we want to listen and absorb his thoughts?

For your information on the quote in this post, here is some information on Epictetus which I got from Wikipedia.

"Epictetus focused more on ethics than the early Stoics had. Repeatedly attributing his ideas to Socrates, he held that our aim was to be masters of our own lives. The role of the Stoic teacher, according to Epictetus, was to encourage his students to learn, first of all, the true nature of things, which is invariable, inviolable and valid for all human beings without exceptions."

You be the judge of what you listen to and what you absorb. Quotes can be interesting sound bites. Yet, sometimes, something is missing - the before and after -- AND, who is being quoted. What are you hearing? All, or part. What are you seeing, all or part?

Just as you come to this blog to see what is posted. Yet, on this blog, as there have been about 100 postings, you are getting a good idea of who I am and what I believe is important. If these postings have resonated with you, then you return. You return more when you find consistency in value that speaks to your values. Yet, if you jump from one quote to another unaware of who the speaker is.........

Squeeze the joy!