Whatever you are doing today ---
I wish you a very, joyous, warm, hearthful New Year.
About Me
- A tidbit
- As a Lounge Chair to Victory collaborator, my style of coaching is about you!!!! What do you want, need,what is missing? Create a larger vision to attract opportunities--such as more money or great relationships, tear down walls. Healthy lifestyle vs. lose weight; enjoy each day vs. working drudgery, start your own business. There are so many possibilities what are you missing? Not sure; let's communicate. Contact: itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com
Monday, December 31, 2007
Wednesday, December 26, 2007
2007 IS AT THE END -- 2008 ABOUT TO BEGIN
This is to women who are getting over relationships, or who want to get over a relationship - what is the most difficult part of moving on? What is holding you prisoner in time?
If there is some sharing on this site - many will be helped. Or, perhaps if someone has a great idea - you may find it helpful.
-- anyone interested in forming a group? A group to enpower each other? A group of individuals who trust each other, and, that once formed, would have to vote in new group members.
Thoughts are exciting -
If there is some sharing on this site - many will be helped. Or, perhaps if someone has a great idea - you may find it helpful.
-- anyone interested in forming a group? A group to enpower each other? A group of individuals who trust each other, and, that once formed, would have to vote in new group members.
Thoughts are exciting -
Tuesday, December 25, 2007
ASK A CLEAR QUESTION - GET A CLEAR ANSWER
A few days ago I asked a clear question about how to create paragraphs in this blogger. They were there awhile ago, well, maybe quite a few months ago, or when the blog began. Yet, at some point, they went away.
When this truly began to bother me, I asked a clear question. Can anyone tell me how to get paragraphs into this blog post.
Yipee - I received an answer, took care of the reason why, and paragraphs are back. I think it is better.
Another example of being clear with communication. When something becomes important enough, people will do what they can to find an answer. I'm going to take a look around and make a list of what other things I have missed.
I continue to learn, which makes me know I'm truly alive and well.
Merry Christmas to each of you and to all who are celebrating Christmas in the world.
Now on to a Happy New Year!
When this truly began to bother me, I asked a clear question. Can anyone tell me how to get paragraphs into this blog post.
Yipee - I received an answer, took care of the reason why, and paragraphs are back. I think it is better.
Another example of being clear with communication. When something becomes important enough, people will do what they can to find an answer. I'm going to take a look around and make a list of what other things I have missed.
I continue to learn, which makes me know I'm truly alive and well.
Merry Christmas to each of you and to all who are celebrating Christmas in the world.
Now on to a Happy New Year!
Sunday, December 23, 2007
HAPPY DAY BEFORE CHRISTMAS EVE
First, I would like to recognize, acknowledge and applaud everyone who is a respectful member of a religious community. From my perspective -- living a Godly and religious life is not simply about the religion we are practicing. It is also important that there be respect of our individual selves AND the selves of others while embracing all differences.
When people begin to live with, in and among violence while claiming religious freedom, they are defiling the religion they claim to embrace. They are neither respecting their own lives or the lives of others.
I acknowledge there are many other religions, beliefs and traditions. I am a Christian, yet I respect the rights of others to reflect and live different. Here is a list on the day before Christmas Eve........
From InTouchMinistries from the teachings of Dr. Charles Stanley:
Principle #1 Our intimacy with God – His highest priority for our lives – determines the impact of our lives.
Principle #2 Obey God and leave all the consequences to Him.
Principle #3 God’s Word is an immovable anchor in times of storm.
Principle #4 The awareness of God’s presence energizes us for our work.
Principle #5 God does not require us to understand His will, just obey it, even if it seems unreasonable.
Principle #6 You reap what you sow, more than you sow, and later than you sow.
Principle #7 The dark moments of our life will last only so long as is necessary for God to accomplish His purpose in us.
Principle #8 Fight all your battles on your knees and you win every time.
Principle #9 Trusting God means looking beyond what we can see to what God sees.
Principle #10 If necessary, God will move heaven and earth to show us His will.
Principle #11 God assumes full responsibility for our needs when we obey Him.
Principle #12 Peace with God is the fruit of oneness with God.
Principle #13 Listening to God is essential to walking with God.
Principle #14 God acts on behalf of those who wait for Him.
Principle #15 Brokenness is God’s requirement for maximum usefulness.
Principle #16 Whatever you acquire outside of God’s will eventually turns to ashes.
Principle #17 We stand tallest and strongest on our knees.
Principle #18 As children of a sovereign God, we are never victims of our circumstances.
Principle #19 Anything you hold too tightly, you will lose.
Principle #20 Disappointments are inevitable, discouragement is a choice.
Principle #21 Obedience always brings blessing.
Principle #22 To walk in the Spirit is to obey the initial promptings of the Spirit.
Principle #23 You can never out give God.
Principle #24 To live the Christian life is to allow Jesus to live His life in and through us.
Principle #25 God blesses us so that we might bless others.
Principle #26 Adversity is a bridge to a deeper relationship with God.
Principle #27 Prayer is life’s greatest time saver.
Principle #28 No Christian has ever been called to “go it alone” in his or her walk of faith.
Principle #29 We learn more in our valley experiences than on our mountaintops.
Principle #30 An eager anticipation of the Lord’s return keeps us living productively.
When people begin to live with, in and among violence while claiming religious freedom, they are defiling the religion they claim to embrace. They are neither respecting their own lives or the lives of others.
I acknowledge there are many other religions, beliefs and traditions. I am a Christian, yet I respect the rights of others to reflect and live different. Here is a list on the day before Christmas Eve........
From InTouchMinistries from the teachings of Dr. Charles Stanley:
Principle #1 Our intimacy with God – His highest priority for our lives – determines the impact of our lives.
Principle #2 Obey God and leave all the consequences to Him.
Principle #3 God’s Word is an immovable anchor in times of storm.
Principle #4 The awareness of God’s presence energizes us for our work.
Principle #5 God does not require us to understand His will, just obey it, even if it seems unreasonable.
Principle #6 You reap what you sow, more than you sow, and later than you sow.
Principle #7 The dark moments of our life will last only so long as is necessary for God to accomplish His purpose in us.
Principle #8 Fight all your battles on your knees and you win every time.
Principle #9 Trusting God means looking beyond what we can see to what God sees.
Principle #10 If necessary, God will move heaven and earth to show us His will.
Principle #11 God assumes full responsibility for our needs when we obey Him.
Principle #12 Peace with God is the fruit of oneness with God.
Principle #13 Listening to God is essential to walking with God.
Principle #14 God acts on behalf of those who wait for Him.
Principle #15 Brokenness is God’s requirement for maximum usefulness.
Principle #16 Whatever you acquire outside of God’s will eventually turns to ashes.
Principle #17 We stand tallest and strongest on our knees.
Principle #18 As children of a sovereign God, we are never victims of our circumstances.
Principle #19 Anything you hold too tightly, you will lose.
Principle #20 Disappointments are inevitable, discouragement is a choice.
Principle #21 Obedience always brings blessing.
Principle #22 To walk in the Spirit is to obey the initial promptings of the Spirit.
Principle #23 You can never out give God.
Principle #24 To live the Christian life is to allow Jesus to live His life in and through us.
Principle #25 God blesses us so that we might bless others.
Principle #26 Adversity is a bridge to a deeper relationship with God.
Principle #27 Prayer is life’s greatest time saver.
Principle #28 No Christian has ever been called to “go it alone” in his or her walk of faith.
Principle #29 We learn more in our valley experiences than on our mountaintops.
Principle #30 An eager anticipation of the Lord’s return keeps us living productively.
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
PARAGRAPHS?
QUICK Question -- Does anyone know how to get paragraphs into a blog? I create it in Word and the paragraphs are removed. Hmmmmmm -- I create it in blogger and there are no paragraphs. Granted I have not done a bunch of research, if someone might share - that would be very appreciated.
GIFT TO SELF AND OTHERS -- NO $$$$$ SPENT
Each moment in life is perfect in so many ways. The holiday season is a perfect time of the year to give YOURSELF and others a gift that will create smiles and relaxation, yet, not remove $$$ from your pocket.
When driving – slow down and leave room to respond rather than reacting. This post is for all people, like me, who are moving into the holiday season with breakneck speed. So much to do and so little time……
This gift will provide time to clear the mind. You will also discover your hunched shoulders moving away from your ears into a more natural relaxed position.
The benefits are many, a few are:
You can listen to your favorite music a little longer --- when you leave earlier for work in the morning to avoid the crunch of traffic with a radio connection thing for your IPOD. For the device, the IPOD people can point you in the right direction, that’s not my job.
Your mom won’t call you to see if you arrived safe, or, in your own time, you can have time to call her and let her know you arrived safe.
The car brakes will be happier, your nerves, better gas mileage, etc. etc. etc. Did I miss anything? Let me know. What do you notice when you relax and take time?
Oh, HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!!
When driving – slow down and leave room to respond rather than reacting. This post is for all people, like me, who are moving into the holiday season with breakneck speed. So much to do and so little time……
This gift will provide time to clear the mind. You will also discover your hunched shoulders moving away from your ears into a more natural relaxed position.
The benefits are many, a few are:
You can listen to your favorite music a little longer --- when you leave earlier for work in the morning to avoid the crunch of traffic with a radio connection thing for your IPOD. For the device, the IPOD people can point you in the right direction, that’s not my job.
Your mom won’t call you to see if you arrived safe, or, in your own time, you can have time to call her and let her know you arrived safe.
The car brakes will be happier, your nerves, better gas mileage, etc. etc. etc. Did I miss anything? Let me know. What do you notice when you relax and take time?
Oh, HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!!
Friday, December 7, 2007
WHAT DEFINES YOU?
hmmmmm - are you bored or struggling with your day job? Do you want something different, you are bored, stressed, you are not appreciated, you are totally dissatisfied? Is it affecting you 24 hours of the day?
It may not be the job ---------- it may be your attachment to whatever the "job" means. Does having the job mean a lifestyle you are striving to have? Does the job serve as the fuel to not be forgiving? Are you still angry about something or at someone that, unresolved, that continues into your job?
What do you need to let go - to be happy - to be satisfied - to live the life you want vs. striving to live a lifestyle?
You have the power to change --- ask yourself questions with "or" included. Is this what I want --- or -- is this what I want. Is it the job I actually dislike --- or is it that I don't know what to do after I leave work? If it is the job -- what do you do? Nothing? Or, clean up your resume, take a class, or, what else can you think of?
Note -- the word "or" provides choice. If this works, GREAT!
OR -- hire a coach - contact me at itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com We can make arrangements to speak, hear my voice and choose. Or..............................
Namaste
It may not be the job ---------- it may be your attachment to whatever the "job" means. Does having the job mean a lifestyle you are striving to have? Does the job serve as the fuel to not be forgiving? Are you still angry about something or at someone that, unresolved, that continues into your job?
What do you need to let go - to be happy - to be satisfied - to live the life you want vs. striving to live a lifestyle?
You have the power to change --- ask yourself questions with "or" included. Is this what I want --- or -- is this what I want. Is it the job I actually dislike --- or is it that I don't know what to do after I leave work? If it is the job -- what do you do? Nothing? Or, clean up your resume, take a class, or, what else can you think of?
Note -- the word "or" provides choice. If this works, GREAT!
OR -- hire a coach - contact me at itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com We can make arrangements to speak, hear my voice and choose. Or..............................
Namaste
Monday, November 26, 2007
Your Mind is In Charge of You
Your mind's thoughts are what drives you, moves you away from the computer, you decide to stay in bed all day, or put your sneakers on and exercise. Your mind chooses what you eat, what you say, what you do.
Your mind compliments you; your mind beat you up. What percentage of your thoughts are joyful and happy thoughts, and what percentage are not. What are you willing to do to be joyful and happy?
-A Tidbit --- The next time a sentence contains the word "should," stop and right then decide if the should is something you want to do/need to do, or if it is something that you would rather live without. Then either put it on paper and discard it -- or, change the word "should" to "will" and plan step one to make it happen.
Your mind compliments you; your mind beat you up. What percentage of your thoughts are joyful and happy thoughts, and what percentage are not. What are you willing to do to be joyful and happy?
-A Tidbit --- The next time a sentence contains the word "should," stop and right then decide if the should is something you want to do/need to do, or if it is something that you would rather live without. Then either put it on paper and discard it -- or, change the word "should" to "will" and plan step one to make it happen.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
NEW BLOG FACE
This blog is being remodeled, a recorded piece will be added, and other stuff. So, please continue to take a look, don't hesitate to leave comments or offer a suggestion.
It is growing in order for me to share more of what I am observing. It's Your Life Net coaching and this blog, -A Tidbit, are designed to be a catalyst and a safety net.
Namaste
It is growing in order for me to share more of what I am observing. It's Your Life Net coaching and this blog, -A Tidbit, are designed to be a catalyst and a safety net.
Namaste
CHANGES HAPPEN EVERY DAY -----
Interesting where topics come from. Today I was listening and a fellow coach mentioned threshhold with regard to change. Each day we find ourselves on a threshhold of something, as change happens to every person every day. Even if it is simply putting on clean underwear. Choices occur minute by minute - do we walk through the door or move to another. What steps do we need to take in order to be fully involved and in the room.
This can also equate to the upcoming Christmas Holiday. That is what I know, Christmas, so I can blog about it. I do recognize there are other holidays that others celebrate. Yet, this is about Christmas. All the hustle and bustle itself is challenging and creates stress. So, does the fact that within families each year kids grow up, parents grow older, people move away, people pass away, people break up. Each year Christmas comes, and people's expectations can be interesting, at best. We currently are at the Christmas threshhold. It is a great place to take another look at this Christmas. What works, what does not, how can it be improved, what do I personally need, and what do others whom I love want and need.
Now is the time to begin to communicate and plan. Already I have made plans for church on Christmas Eve, and I'm beginning to plan for Christmas dinner. In fact as I write this I am going to make some invitations for Christmas dinner. There must be other single people who would like to share a dinner.
Christmas is not about trees, ribbon, gifts, candy, and, and, and. Christmas is about the birth of Jesus. It is a celebration of being Christian and a PERFECT time and opportunity exists to do something for someone else simply to do something for someone else.
This can also equate to the upcoming Christmas Holiday. That is what I know, Christmas, so I can blog about it. I do recognize there are other holidays that others celebrate. Yet, this is about Christmas. All the hustle and bustle itself is challenging and creates stress. So, does the fact that within families each year kids grow up, parents grow older, people move away, people pass away, people break up. Each year Christmas comes, and people's expectations can be interesting, at best. We currently are at the Christmas threshhold. It is a great place to take another look at this Christmas. What works, what does not, how can it be improved, what do I personally need, and what do others whom I love want and need.
Now is the time to begin to communicate and plan. Already I have made plans for church on Christmas Eve, and I'm beginning to plan for Christmas dinner. In fact as I write this I am going to make some invitations for Christmas dinner. There must be other single people who would like to share a dinner.
Christmas is not about trees, ribbon, gifts, candy, and, and, and. Christmas is about the birth of Jesus. It is a celebration of being Christian and a PERFECT time and opportunity exists to do something for someone else simply to do something for someone else.
Monday, November 19, 2007
IS CONTROVERSY SOME PEOPLE'S CANDY?
Ann Coulter spews acidic opinionated remarks from the hip quite often. I'm wondering if it is simply to be seen and heard, and she has found curious ears to hear and eyes to read. Is creating controversy some people's sugar rush, perhaps? Oh, she is not the only one, yet she seems to screech through and above others.
I believe in everyone having the right to free speech; yet, when do vicious comments suggest freedom.
If you don't know who Ann Coulter is, I'm sure you can use Google. This is not to promote her. If you are a fan, I'm asking for some understanding, and I'm simply curious. If you are not, thank you.
This may seem to be an unusual post. I was simply looking through some notes, saw this topic and decided to share.
Happy Monday!
I believe in everyone having the right to free speech; yet, when do vicious comments suggest freedom.
If you don't know who Ann Coulter is, I'm sure you can use Google. This is not to promote her. If you are a fan, I'm asking for some understanding, and I'm simply curious. If you are not, thank you.
This may seem to be an unusual post. I was simply looking through some notes, saw this topic and decided to share.
Happy Monday!
Saturday, November 17, 2007
COMING SOON -----
You have been reading my words, and I thank you. Within a few weeks you will be able to hear my voice as a recording will be added to the blog. Stay tuned!
AN INEXPENSIVE, YET RICH GIFT SUGGESTION
Have you ever thought --- which is louder a monster thunder storm or the silence of a phone not ringing.
As the Thanksgiving and holiday season approaches, thoughts will be on people present, past and a vision of those, perhaps in the future. As we transform into the holiday preparation persona, faster and faster each day the normal "stuff" needs doing, then add shopping, decorating, cooking, baking, cleaning, polishing, last minute gifts, etc. etc. etc. ----
take a minute, pick up the phone and say -- "Hello, I was just thinking of you and I smiled, how are you?" That is the richest gift you can give to another, and one that can cost the least.
Or, is there a person you have not seen or spoken to in awhile -- call them - break the ice. Let the wasted, wondering mind energy fall away creating space for bright and productive thoughts.
As the Thanksgiving and holiday season approaches, thoughts will be on people present, past and a vision of those, perhaps in the future. As we transform into the holiday preparation persona, faster and faster each day the normal "stuff" needs doing, then add shopping, decorating, cooking, baking, cleaning, polishing, last minute gifts, etc. etc. etc. ----
take a minute, pick up the phone and say -- "Hello, I was just thinking of you and I smiled, how are you?" That is the richest gift you can give to another, and one that can cost the least.
Or, is there a person you have not seen or spoken to in awhile -- call them - break the ice. Let the wasted, wondering mind energy fall away creating space for bright and productive thoughts.
Friday, November 16, 2007
THANKSGIVING PREPARATION - I THANK YOU!
Thanksgiving is next week and the holiday season will be upon us.
The past two years for this writer have been ripe with change in more environments than I previously thought existed. Environments -- Financial, Spiritual, Memetic, Relationship, Home, Transportation, Exercise, and Personal, to name a few.
I am here today to give a huge thank you to the readers of this blog, to those that tell others about it, and who join it for the first time, and for Blogger for the opportunity to write and share what is on my mind. Each day I thank God for what I have received and experienced, and I acknowledge what I have accomplished that day and prepare for the next.
At the end each day, before bedtime with another or alone, I suggest that you take a few minutes to personally acknowledge a job well done for that day. Nothing is too small -- trimmed toe nails, a bed made, bills paid, or, it is Friday. Create a book and enter a page each day. You are your own best friend - pats on the back begin with you. When you begin to appreciate yourself - others will also. You are then contagious.
Happy Thanksgiving --
The past two years for this writer have been ripe with change in more environments than I previously thought existed. Environments -- Financial, Spiritual, Memetic, Relationship, Home, Transportation, Exercise, and Personal, to name a few.
I am here today to give a huge thank you to the readers of this blog, to those that tell others about it, and who join it for the first time, and for Blogger for the opportunity to write and share what is on my mind. Each day I thank God for what I have received and experienced, and I acknowledge what I have accomplished that day and prepare for the next.
At the end each day, before bedtime with another or alone, I suggest that you take a few minutes to personally acknowledge a job well done for that day. Nothing is too small -- trimmed toe nails, a bed made, bills paid, or, it is Friday. Create a book and enter a page each day. You are your own best friend - pats on the back begin with you. When you begin to appreciate yourself - others will also. You are then contagious.
Happy Thanksgiving --
Friday, November 9, 2007
Holiday - Depressed? Shift to Happy and to Joy
Although they are meant for celebration, the approaching holidays, for many, bring thoughts and feelings of loneliness, emptiness, sorrow, wishful thinking, despair, change and many others very personal.
The design of this blog is to offer and share -A Tidbit. This is a ripe time of year to grab -A Tidbit and begin to create a holiday designed for what YOU need and want. Life's changes uncover loved ones removed from our lives for many reasons - death, relationship breakups, and quarrels to name a few. I have had them all, and I still enjoy the holidays for what they are meant to be. Yes, faces involved with my celebrations have changed, yet the spirit of the holidays is everlasting.
As time moves toward the end of 2007 and the beginning of 2008, this blog will offer thoughts through tidbits to enable 2008 to become a shining year for YOU. Your thoughts and intentions CREATE your future days. When you begin today, counting today, you will have 13 days to begin to create a wonderful THANKSGIVING Day and other holidays will follow.
Suggestion: As a beginning, check out an earlier -A Tidbit entitled "Traditions - Drain or Energy?"
Namaste ----
The design of this blog is to offer and share -A Tidbit. This is a ripe time of year to grab -A Tidbit and begin to create a holiday designed for what YOU need and want. Life's changes uncover loved ones removed from our lives for many reasons - death, relationship breakups, and quarrels to name a few. I have had them all, and I still enjoy the holidays for what they are meant to be. Yes, faces involved with my celebrations have changed, yet the spirit of the holidays is everlasting.
As time moves toward the end of 2007 and the beginning of 2008, this blog will offer thoughts through tidbits to enable 2008 to become a shining year for YOU. Your thoughts and intentions CREATE your future days. When you begin today, counting today, you will have 13 days to begin to create a wonderful THANKSGIVING Day and other holidays will follow.
Suggestion: As a beginning, check out an earlier -A Tidbit entitled "Traditions - Drain or Energy?"
Namaste ----
Tuesday, November 6, 2007
POSSIBLE INFORMATION SOURCE
business professionals and others who have a need might want to check out the following site. I simply like to connect people with information.
I have never used this site, yet it has interesting information on it. There is a ton of stuff under "Latest Articles." I took a quick tour through it, though I have enough projects right now.
If you do, please post your comments, thoughts -- worth it, or not.
http://www.businesscreditcards.com
I have never used this site, yet it has interesting information on it. There is a ton of stuff under "Latest Articles." I took a quick tour through it, though I have enough projects right now.
If you do, please post your comments, thoughts -- worth it, or not.
http://www.businesscreditcards.com
#4 REASON TO HIRE A COACH:
Tuesday, November 6, 2007
#4 Reason to Hire a Coach:
What kind of results are you getting now? If the answer is -- the same results - and you want different or....... is it time to safely investigate what coaching is all about? Are you ready for a different result?
#4 Reason to Hire a Coach:
What kind of results are you getting now? If the answer is -- the same results - and you want different or....... is it time to safely investigate what coaching is all about? Are you ready for a different result?
Monday, November 5, 2007
Monday, October 29, 2007
HEALTH CARE INFO FOR WOMEN
Not certain if this pertains to you, yet you might know someone who may appreciate this information.
Women's Health Partnership is an organization that assists women who either (1) can't afford health care, or (2) are underinsured with their present health care plan.
Included are procedures and tests, such as Breast, Cervical and Colon screenings. In Rochester, NY the phone number is 585-753-5978.
I did an internet search and this group is active in other cities. Please, if you know of anyone or are in need yourself - please check this organization out. They are there to assist, truly.
If you do not have internet access - check out your public library. If you have a library card, you can get internet access. If you don't - I suggest you get one and visit your library, they are a wealth of information and facts. There is also a lot of information beliefs around.
Make up your own mind - and take care of yourself - YOU ARE THE ONLY SELF THAT YOU HAVE!!!!!!!
Women's Health Partnership is an organization that assists women who either (1) can't afford health care, or (2) are underinsured with their present health care plan.
Included are procedures and tests, such as Breast, Cervical and Colon screenings. In Rochester, NY the phone number is 585-753-5978.
I did an internet search and this group is active in other cities. Please, if you know of anyone or are in need yourself - please check this organization out. They are there to assist, truly.
If you do not have internet access - check out your public library. If you have a library card, you can get internet access. If you don't - I suggest you get one and visit your library, they are a wealth of information and facts. There is also a lot of information beliefs around.
Make up your own mind - and take care of yourself - YOU ARE THE ONLY SELF THAT YOU HAVE!!!!!!!
Sunday, October 28, 2007
LOVE VS. FEAR
Love as a noun, love as a verb. You can say you love someone or something; yet if you don’t take action, is it really so?
Is the word Love way overused, yet not experienced? This past week I pondered, asked and searched for thoughts on the use of the word Love. This topic literally popped into my mind spawned by the appearance of the word in a simple sentence in an email. Please note the post before the last one. (There probably is an easier way to say that.......)
LOVE is an emotion, and the opposite emotion is FEAR. Let me set the stage.
A few weeks ago a former love’s phone number randomly appeared in my head, at times in large letters. Initially, I distinctly heard his father’s voice not speaking directly to me. I was compelled to search the internet and discovered an 800 number, yippee!!! The inquiry will not cost me a penny.
I sat on the couch, cup of tea in hand -- oh, so civilized, and placed the call. His brother-in-law answered the phone, and a wonderful conversation ensued. I left the call thinking, how pleasant; everyone seems alive, well and happy.
Yet, not stopping there, as I did not speak with my former love, I sent an email, and received a reply. I discovered he’s doing “great,” in a relationship with a new friend, and ……… his father had passed away ………. in 2001. That surprised and saddened me, yet the news did explain the voice I had heard in my mind.
When a relationship concludes, both people move on, one typically moves forward more easily. I was devastated initially. I felt both a personal loss of the relationship together with the loss of the warm, loving family I had grown to love. There were 6 siblings, two wonderful parents, grandchildren, etc.
As time passed, I grew, and moved on. A couple years later, he called, we met for lunch, and rather like a hiccup, the connection was gone again.
The recent thread of emails has been informative, yet, emotionless in an interesting way. We appear to be playing a role similar to Joe Friday’s TV role on the series Dragnet, "Just the facts, Ma'am…,”
In my coaching practice I suggest and share the belief that thoughts generated by feelings are best investigated and not shoved beneath the couch. They will definitely reappear, and, perhaps appear at inconvenient times possibly larger in scope.
This relationship was special; I learned so, so much.
As I prepared to move to a tiny town, 3 hours from my hometown, friends and family, it was my responsibility to create an income stream to support my life which includes the typical -- car, insurances, etc. etc. Now, thinking back, I’m not certain that we discussed marriage. The target date for the move was my daughter’s high school graduation. He bought me a treadmill to celebrate the move.
I started to think hard, too hard, perhaps. There were emotions which spawned feelings of isolation, confusion, and fear that slowly emanated to eventually create a large, burdensome weight bearing on my chest. He was established; he was an entrepreneur and was continuing to develop in his hometown. What was I to do? Nothing – the answer kept playing and replaying in my head.
I felt lost, and disconnected. Those feelings became who I was. Eventually, he met someone else and moved on. How could I have been surprised? Until now, I did not fully understand my role in what happened.
1. I did not honor my value of complete commitment and communication.
2. By not acknowledging and sharing my needs, the relationship was doomed.
3. Not living in the present; living with a future target also created relationship failure. The dangling carrot, my daughter’s graduation, looked brilliant.
4. My life was totally changing. His life, as perceived by me, was to simply make room in a closet for my stuff.
What I have learned. Values typically do not change. When you make decisions not based on your true values, problems will occur.
When another relationship dissolved, I processed through its demise faster, and with fewer traumas. I had a coach, new tools and better skills which created much better understandings. I do the homework that my coach requests. I monitor more thoughts, process those thoughts, and take action when there is action to take. Stay tuned for more to come.
Your thoughts – please feel free to share publicly on the site or email me at itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com Coaching is confidential – safe – and wonderful. By contacting me – receiving a ½ hour complimentary coaching experience – is like finding $50. Tag – you’re it.
Is the word Love way overused, yet not experienced? This past week I pondered, asked and searched for thoughts on the use of the word Love. This topic literally popped into my mind spawned by the appearance of the word in a simple sentence in an email. Please note the post before the last one. (There probably is an easier way to say that.......)
LOVE is an emotion, and the opposite emotion is FEAR. Let me set the stage.
A few weeks ago a former love’s phone number randomly appeared in my head, at times in large letters. Initially, I distinctly heard his father’s voice not speaking directly to me. I was compelled to search the internet and discovered an 800 number, yippee!!! The inquiry will not cost me a penny.
I sat on the couch, cup of tea in hand -- oh, so civilized, and placed the call. His brother-in-law answered the phone, and a wonderful conversation ensued. I left the call thinking, how pleasant; everyone seems alive, well and happy.
Yet, not stopping there, as I did not speak with my former love, I sent an email, and received a reply. I discovered he’s doing “great,” in a relationship with a new friend, and ……… his father had passed away ………. in 2001. That surprised and saddened me, yet the news did explain the voice I had heard in my mind.
When a relationship concludes, both people move on, one typically moves forward more easily. I was devastated initially. I felt both a personal loss of the relationship together with the loss of the warm, loving family I had grown to love. There were 6 siblings, two wonderful parents, grandchildren, etc.
As time passed, I grew, and moved on. A couple years later, he called, we met for lunch, and rather like a hiccup, the connection was gone again.
The recent thread of emails has been informative, yet, emotionless in an interesting way. We appear to be playing a role similar to Joe Friday’s TV role on the series Dragnet, "Just the facts, Ma'am…,”
In my coaching practice I suggest and share the belief that thoughts generated by feelings are best investigated and not shoved beneath the couch. They will definitely reappear, and, perhaps appear at inconvenient times possibly larger in scope.
This relationship was special; I learned so, so much.
As I prepared to move to a tiny town, 3 hours from my hometown, friends and family, it was my responsibility to create an income stream to support my life which includes the typical -- car, insurances, etc. etc. Now, thinking back, I’m not certain that we discussed marriage. The target date for the move was my daughter’s high school graduation. He bought me a treadmill to celebrate the move.
I started to think hard, too hard, perhaps. There were emotions which spawned feelings of isolation, confusion, and fear that slowly emanated to eventually create a large, burdensome weight bearing on my chest. He was established; he was an entrepreneur and was continuing to develop in his hometown. What was I to do? Nothing – the answer kept playing and replaying in my head.
I felt lost, and disconnected. Those feelings became who I was. Eventually, he met someone else and moved on. How could I have been surprised? Until now, I did not fully understand my role in what happened.
1. I did not honor my value of complete commitment and communication.
2. By not acknowledging and sharing my needs, the relationship was doomed.
3. Not living in the present; living with a future target also created relationship failure. The dangling carrot, my daughter’s graduation, looked brilliant.
4. My life was totally changing. His life, as perceived by me, was to simply make room in a closet for my stuff.
What I have learned. Values typically do not change. When you make decisions not based on your true values, problems will occur.
When another relationship dissolved, I processed through its demise faster, and with fewer traumas. I had a coach, new tools and better skills which created much better understandings. I do the homework that my coach requests. I monitor more thoughts, process those thoughts, and take action when there is action to take. Stay tuned for more to come.
Your thoughts – please feel free to share publicly on the site or email me at itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com Coaching is confidential – safe – and wonderful. By contacting me – receiving a ½ hour complimentary coaching experience – is like finding $50. Tag – you’re it.
Saturday, October 27, 2007
Comments in One Post -- Thank you ALL
This is a post of comments that were so kindly posted to the various blog postings throughout the year. Since the post had to be purged and then recreated, I was so disappointed about losing the comments.
However, my wonderfully creative VA had saved many. So, here they are. I thank each and every person for your comments.
Environment Blog: Hi this is Pam and your Environment piece is wonderful. I am involved with different groups for the Environment and trying to make the world a better place.. Nice to see you added a new blog to your site. I follow your blog and think there wonderful. I blog also just starting out and I've had issues with my profile not showing up next to the blog that get's a little frustrating. I bring that up since I noticed you were without your also. Doesn't that get a little annoying. Hopefully this is short lived. Keep up the great work would like to see more writing from you. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit at October 15, 2007 12:06 PM
Hi my name is Amy and thank you for your last entry... I'm going through a situation now of a divorce. After 4 years of marriage I had caught my husband cheating. Talk about a shock of your life walking in on him. He up and left leaving me high and dry so of speak not knowing which direction to go in and I have 2 kids to care for. Relationships are very hard work. Thank goodness for friends for there support in my time of need. Look forward to more entries. I'm a faithful reader. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit at May 6, 2007 10:36 AM
Hello, I'm Brian going through a similar situation like you did and trying to figure out how to go on. Your blog gives good insites and suggestions to try. I appreciate you writing this came at the right time in my life. Found you through google. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit at May 8, 2007 6:06 AM
Hello my name is Betty living through a awful situation of being abused and being in and out of hospitals with beatings. I went out to your blog site as I do every couple of weeks and read what you wrote. This was so inspirational for me and your writing is calming packed with a lot of useful information to be used. Which I will be trying them out. Like the way you come across in your writings. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit at May 8, 2007 6:14 AM
Welcome back I read your blog every other week to see what's new. Isn't operating without delay a great concept. It truly does work. I use it quite often. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit at June 29, 2007 5:45 PM
Hi my name Joe and how true it is of making each day count and living in the present. You just never know when something could happen. I had a personal life altering change to my life where I lost someone very close and dear to me in a car accident. So now I live everyday like it's the last and to the fullest. Thanks for your wonderful blog look forward to more. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit at July 2, 2007 1:50 PM
Hi there my name is Beth and going to a spa is wonderful. However, giving yourself a spa treatment at home is even more amazing and so relaxing. My girlfriend and I take turns once a week with putting lotion and oil on one another and massaging it in. Neither one of us are professionals yet were gentle enough with each other making sure we don't go too hard. It's totally amazing the feeling and energy you have afterwards. My girl friend and I set a date and time once a week to have dinner exercise then afterwards massage each other taking the time to spend some quality time with a good friend gives opportunity to engage in great conversation.. My friend and I have been setting aside this time to have girl time for the last 2 yrs and it's wonderful to do so. Keep blogging and look forward to seeing more. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit at July 6, 2007 7:34 AM
Health insurance is so expensive I lost my job and had to go on cobra. Didn't think to try the Chamber of Commerce. Nice tip. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit March 14, 2007 6:24 p.m.
I'm a teacher, and we used this chart a lot when planning lessons. There's nothing like "doing" something to get a child to remember! Posted on January 24, 2007 3:04 PM by WanderingWoman, who also has a blog.
However, my wonderfully creative VA had saved many. So, here they are. I thank each and every person for your comments.
Environment Blog: Hi this is Pam and your Environment piece is wonderful. I am involved with different groups for the Environment and trying to make the world a better place.. Nice to see you added a new blog to your site. I follow your blog and think there wonderful. I blog also just starting out and I've had issues with my profile not showing up next to the blog that get's a little frustrating. I bring that up since I noticed you were without your also. Doesn't that get a little annoying. Hopefully this is short lived. Keep up the great work would like to see more writing from you. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit at October 15, 2007 12:06 PM
Hi my name is Amy and thank you for your last entry... I'm going through a situation now of a divorce. After 4 years of marriage I had caught my husband cheating. Talk about a shock of your life walking in on him. He up and left leaving me high and dry so of speak not knowing which direction to go in and I have 2 kids to care for. Relationships are very hard work. Thank goodness for friends for there support in my time of need. Look forward to more entries. I'm a faithful reader. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit at May 6, 2007 10:36 AM
Hello, I'm Brian going through a similar situation like you did and trying to figure out how to go on. Your blog gives good insites and suggestions to try. I appreciate you writing this came at the right time in my life. Found you through google. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit at May 8, 2007 6:06 AM
Hello my name is Betty living through a awful situation of being abused and being in and out of hospitals with beatings. I went out to your blog site as I do every couple of weeks and read what you wrote. This was so inspirational for me and your writing is calming packed with a lot of useful information to be used. Which I will be trying them out. Like the way you come across in your writings. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit at May 8, 2007 6:14 AM
Welcome back I read your blog every other week to see what's new. Isn't operating without delay a great concept. It truly does work. I use it quite often. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit at June 29, 2007 5:45 PM
Hi my name Joe and how true it is of making each day count and living in the present. You just never know when something could happen. I had a personal life altering change to my life where I lost someone very close and dear to me in a car accident. So now I live everyday like it's the last and to the fullest. Thanks for your wonderful blog look forward to more. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit at July 2, 2007 1:50 PM
Hi there my name is Beth and going to a spa is wonderful. However, giving yourself a spa treatment at home is even more amazing and so relaxing. My girlfriend and I take turns once a week with putting lotion and oil on one another and massaging it in. Neither one of us are professionals yet were gentle enough with each other making sure we don't go too hard. It's totally amazing the feeling and energy you have afterwards. My girl friend and I set a date and time once a week to have dinner exercise then afterwards massage each other taking the time to spend some quality time with a good friend gives opportunity to engage in great conversation.. My friend and I have been setting aside this time to have girl time for the last 2 yrs and it's wonderful to do so. Keep blogging and look forward to seeing more. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit at July 6, 2007 7:34 AM
Health insurance is so expensive I lost my job and had to go on cobra. Didn't think to try the Chamber of Commerce. Nice tip. Posted by Anonymous to -A Tidbit March 14, 2007 6:24 p.m.
I'm a teacher, and we used this chart a lot when planning lessons. There's nothing like "doing" something to get a child to remember! Posted on January 24, 2007 3:04 PM by WanderingWoman, who also has a blog.
Love -- Is the Word Overused? Or Misused? Sometimes Both
Friday, October 19, 2007
This is the first post on this subject, and stay tuned there will be more. It began with a sentence in an email, which sent me in search of thoughts and ideas on the word love. This is an email response to a question I posted on a member yahoo group. Dee has given me permission to share, and I thank her very much.I think the word 'love' is overused, mainly because (as Charlie says) of the limitations of the English language. For example, the Greeks have 5 different terms for the word love:
Eros - which is a passionate, sexual love
Philia - denotes friendship and loyalty
Agape - refers to a general affection, rather than attraction.
(e.g. this term was used to describe Jesus' relationship with his disciples.)
Storge - a natural affection of parents for their children
Thelema - a desire to do something, be occupied etc.
(In proper ancient Greek, some of these terms had stronger meanings, e.g. philia could be a term used between lovers.)
This is the first post on this subject, and stay tuned there will be more. It began with a sentence in an email, which sent me in search of thoughts and ideas on the word love. This is an email response to a question I posted on a member yahoo group. Dee has given me permission to share, and I thank her very much.I think the word 'love' is overused, mainly because (as Charlie says) of the limitations of the English language. For example, the Greeks have 5 different terms for the word love:
Eros - which is a passionate, sexual love
Philia - denotes friendship and loyalty
Agape - refers to a general affection, rather than attraction.
(e.g. this term was used to describe Jesus' relationship with his disciples.)
Storge - a natural affection of parents for their children
Thelema - a desire to do something, be occupied etc.
(In proper ancient Greek, some of these terms had stronger meanings, e.g. philia could be a term used between lovers.)
Have You Seen My Country?
Monday, October 15, 2007
Today, Unity '08 launches its "Have You Seen My Country?" campaign.
http://unity08.com/takeaction/mycountry
This blog is not politically minded, yet I am an American and proud for what that stood for many, many years ago. It seems that politicians, interest groups, and others to multiple to mention, have had other ideas about the direction of the United States. I noticed this today -- and needed to share it with anyone possible.
This is not one of the most popular blogs based on traffic flow. Yet, I am very grateful for the following for which I do have and those that have shared with comments. Step by step - I do this based on sharing more than owning what the content is.
Today, Unity '08 launches its "Have You Seen My Country?" campaign.
http://unity08.com/takeaction/mycountry
This blog is not politically minded, yet I am an American and proud for what that stood for many, many years ago. It seems that politicians, interest groups, and others to multiple to mention, have had other ideas about the direction of the United States. I noticed this today -- and needed to share it with anyone possible.
This is not one of the most popular blogs based on traffic flow. Yet, I am very grateful for the following for which I do have and those that have shared with comments. Step by step - I do this based on sharing more than owning what the content is.
ENVIRONMENT BLOG ACTION DAY
Sunday, October 14, 2007
The outdoors environment (I am being environment specific as there are many environments, yet that is for another posting) is a very important and timely topic.Awareness began from many sources, yet seemingly expanded globally by luminary Al Gore’s efforts, which include a starring role in the movie, An Inconvenient Truth, a live concert, Live Earth, and most recently being awarded the 2007 Nobel Peace Prize shared with the U.N.'s Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change.
The outdoors environment (I am being environment specific as there are many environments, yet that is for another posting) is a very important and timely topic.Awareness began from many sources, yet seemingly expanded globally by luminary Al Gore’s efforts, which include a starring role in the movie, An Inconvenient Truth, a live concert, Live Earth, and most recently being awarded the 2007 Nobel Peace Prize shared with the U.N.'s Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change.
The delicate condition of the large, encompassing environment that we live in gains notoriety and recognition daily. That is a very good thing from my perspective. Unlike toilet paper and other replaceable goods, the environment is not man made (whatever your spiritual or lack of spiritual beliefs) and only renewable with attention and care.
The air we breath, trees, grass, weeds, flowers, football & soccer fields, blue, pristine water falls, ponds, lakes and public parks in assorted shapes and sizes, and lest we forget, our own back yards and personal space, are simply a few of the many spectacular aspects of the outdoor environment.
What is MOST IMPORTANT to you is typically what you do WELL and what you pay attention to. What is LESS IMPORTANT to you, you do LESS well and so on, until you reach the realm of the UNIMPORTANT.
I ask:
Question ONE: What level of importance TO YOU is the air you breathe and generally all that green/blue and clear stuff that exists outside your internal environment.
Question TWO: What will make the world we live in move up a notch toward MOST IMPORTANT in your life.
Question THREE: What are you willing to do? Stop smoking (healthy for everyone) or simply break the habit of tossing cigarette butts out the car window. I use this example, as one which may be more easily identified or achieved.
COMMENT: This posting is NOT about how large your level of involvement – what is important, from this author’s perspective, is that you get involved at all. Sitting on the sidelines is weight – stepping into the game creates energy.
ARE YOU WILLING TO PLAY – if so, post your email address on this site to discover and commit with a way for you to get in the game at YOUR level. I will post all the ideas with the idea to share, encourage and perhaps even to expand ideas, thoughts and efforts of many.
#3 Reason To Hire a Coach
Saturday, October 13, 2007
No 3. Reason to Hire a Coach:
You are ready to say "I have DONE IT!!!!!!" rather than I should do...., I will do ..., or, If I get that done....
Please note: This blog site is experiencing some challenges -- to contact me, please send email to itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com.
No 3. Reason to Hire a Coach:
You are ready to say "I have DONE IT!!!!!!" rather than I should do...., I will do ..., or, If I get that done....
Please note: This blog site is experiencing some challenges -- to contact me, please send email to itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com.
New Look - For Fall
#2 Reason to Hire a Coach
KIDS - LOTS TO LEARN FROM KIDS
Saturday, September 15, 2007
Children, now and always see without blinders or filters. These children also have been shown love and have experienced love. It is fresh, available, and most importantly, simply a part of their lives. These arrived via an email, and I selected a few as examples, of Love.
"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen." Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)
"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,"Nikka - age 6(We need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)
And the final one -- Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child. The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,"Nothing, I just helped him cry."
Children, now and always see without blinders or filters. These children also have been shown love and have experienced love. It is fresh, available, and most importantly, simply a part of their lives. These arrived via an email, and I selected a few as examples, of Love.
"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen." Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)
"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,"Nikka - age 6(We need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)
And the final one -- Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child. The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,"Nothing, I just helped him cry."
SEGMENTS ARE AN EASY WAY TO.....
Saturday, September 8, 2007
The Book "The Law of Attraction," by Esther and Jerry Hicks is what I am currently reading. It is similar in many aspects to others on the concept of attraction I have read, with one noted difference at the end. It discusses your life as in segments, and I find this very interesting.
The concept is that you consider every transition in your day as a segment. You get up in the morning that is one segment. Then into the shower, shave, and grooming for the day is the 2nd segment. Getting in your car and traveling to your destination is another.
It suggests that as you begin to change segments you plan for it mentally. You wake up and think, this is a beautiful day, I am healthy, happy, etc. etc. With each step you plan your thoughts. As you get into the car, you think I will be driving safely and comfortably to my destination. Etc. etc.
If you are familiar with attraction, I suggest you cruise right to the last portion first. Then go back to the beginning. It is available at the library to review.This is a great focus concept for people whose attention is easily scattered, or to change the focus of the day.
When days begin with a challenge -- lost keys, spilled coffee, dog eats the homework, the rest of the day can proceed with problems. Try segmenting. Spill the coffee at breakfast, then when transition to the next segment, change your shirt, get refreshed, then refocus and move into the next segment.
Leave the junk behind, and don't take it with you. No need to do this everyday - yet another -A Tidbit to make your day a little easier, happier, less stressful.
Hey, have fun creating your day!
The Book "The Law of Attraction," by Esther and Jerry Hicks is what I am currently reading. It is similar in many aspects to others on the concept of attraction I have read, with one noted difference at the end. It discusses your life as in segments, and I find this very interesting.
The concept is that you consider every transition in your day as a segment. You get up in the morning that is one segment. Then into the shower, shave, and grooming for the day is the 2nd segment. Getting in your car and traveling to your destination is another.
It suggests that as you begin to change segments you plan for it mentally. You wake up and think, this is a beautiful day, I am healthy, happy, etc. etc. With each step you plan your thoughts. As you get into the car, you think I will be driving safely and comfortably to my destination. Etc. etc.
If you are familiar with attraction, I suggest you cruise right to the last portion first. Then go back to the beginning. It is available at the library to review.This is a great focus concept for people whose attention is easily scattered, or to change the focus of the day.
When days begin with a challenge -- lost keys, spilled coffee, dog eats the homework, the rest of the day can proceed with problems. Try segmenting. Spill the coffee at breakfast, then when transition to the next segment, change your shirt, get refreshed, then refocus and move into the next segment.
Leave the junk behind, and don't take it with you. No need to do this everyday - yet another -A Tidbit to make your day a little easier, happier, less stressful.
Hey, have fun creating your day!
DON'T HOLD ON TOO TIGHT
Friday, August 31, 2007
Concentrate on this sentence.....
"When God takes something from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better."
Concentrate on this sentence.....
"The Will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you"
These sentences reminded me that when we hold on to something too tight, or do not remove things from our lives that no longer have value, there is no room for new to enter.
Nothing will change by continuing to do the same thing. Suggestions: Walk backward, take a different road, watch for and step into an opportunity with an open mind and questions.
What do you need? Are you making room or willing to see something differently?
Concentrate on this sentence.....
"When God takes something from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better."
Concentrate on this sentence.....
"The Will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you"
These sentences reminded me that when we hold on to something too tight, or do not remove things from our lives that no longer have value, there is no room for new to enter.
Nothing will change by continuing to do the same thing. Suggestions: Walk backward, take a different road, watch for and step into an opportunity with an open mind and questions.
What do you need? Are you making room or willing to see something differently?
#1 Reason to Hire A Coach
DO YOU BELIEVE? OR DO YOU HAVE KNOWLEDGE?
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
-A Tidbit for today. As we continue to be bombarded with information and communcation, I continue to have this thought and share it here. When reading or hearing a statistic, such as, 43% of the population has a can of tuna in their refrigerator, I have learned to question that information. What was the source? If it is meant to be fun, not serious, so be it.
However, when reading a news story or an article that is meant to be factual, if it mentions statistics without mentioning the source or providing verification, from my perspective it will carry no weight whatsoever. Does reading and absorbing information bring you to make decision based on belief or knowledge? If you make a decision based on belief, how solid is that decision. Beliefs come from other people telling you something -- such as your girlfriend/boyfriend is taking advantage of you. You accept that opinion and abandon the relationship.
Consider the source, ask questions, make a decision based on knowledge -- not beliefs.
Hey you all - create a wonderful day!
-A Tidbit for today. As we continue to be bombarded with information and communcation, I continue to have this thought and share it here. When reading or hearing a statistic, such as, 43% of the population has a can of tuna in their refrigerator, I have learned to question that information. What was the source? If it is meant to be fun, not serious, so be it.
However, when reading a news story or an article that is meant to be factual, if it mentions statistics without mentioning the source or providing verification, from my perspective it will carry no weight whatsoever. Does reading and absorbing information bring you to make decision based on belief or knowledge? If you make a decision based on belief, how solid is that decision. Beliefs come from other people telling you something -- such as your girlfriend/boyfriend is taking advantage of you. You accept that opinion and abandon the relationship.
Consider the source, ask questions, make a decision based on knowledge -- not beliefs.
Hey you all - create a wonderful day!
-A Tidbit - is Designed to be .........
Thursday, August 16, 2007
Welcome to – A Tidbit – the website of small stuff – not in stature – brief thoughts, that may or may not resonate. This is a site where the need for instant gratification can still be satisfied for some.
Each –A Tidbit is designed to be a thought. If it resonates and satisfies that itch, great, if not in the same instant minute, check out another, then another until gratification has been achieved within that instant. Or, stay awhile browse, download a few to review later. Others visitors may get inspiration. Sounds lofty? Not intended. Let’s say, instead, others may be inspired to take –A Tidbit and create a crumb, which can become a morsel, which can become whatever you want to enter your life.
Welcome to – A Tidbit – the website of small stuff – not in stature – brief thoughts, that may or may not resonate. This is a site where the need for instant gratification can still be satisfied for some.
Each –A Tidbit is designed to be a thought. If it resonates and satisfies that itch, great, if not in the same instant minute, check out another, then another until gratification has been achieved within that instant. Or, stay awhile browse, download a few to review later. Others visitors may get inspiration. Sounds lofty? Not intended. Let’s say, instead, others may be inspired to take –A Tidbit and create a crumb, which can become a morsel, which can become whatever you want to enter your life.
STUFF - AND A VERY COOL LINK
Saturday, August 11, 2007
If you would like an enjoyable little nudge every day check out this site: The Universe www.tut.com It is very cool - It inserts your name into the thought, which totally personalizes it.
There is no cost or lengthy membership process.
Well, my new computer is here - and the Laws of Attraction are at work. At the old location the computer desk had speakers and a sub-woofer under the desk. When relationships changed, so went the speakers and sub-woofer. Yet after sharing that I needed and wanted speakers - they arrived in an amazing fashion. They belonged to some people who wanted to get rid of them. Brand new speakers which fit my desk top proudly, along with a sub-woofer under my desk that stands broad and strong. I got them - the couple got rid of them.
All are happy. Have a wonderful weekend, and I'll post again next week.
Warm regards, Susan
If you would like an enjoyable little nudge every day check out this site: The Universe www.tut.com It is very cool - It inserts your name into the thought, which totally personalizes it.
There is no cost or lengthy membership process.
Well, my new computer is here - and the Laws of Attraction are at work. At the old location the computer desk had speakers and a sub-woofer under the desk. When relationships changed, so went the speakers and sub-woofer. Yet after sharing that I needed and wanted speakers - they arrived in an amazing fashion. They belonged to some people who wanted to get rid of them. Brand new speakers which fit my desk top proudly, along with a sub-woofer under my desk that stands broad and strong. I got them - the couple got rid of them.
All are happy. Have a wonderful weekend, and I'll post again next week.
Warm regards, Susan
FROM A PERSON WHO TRULY CARES
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Many people feel alone, though not necessarily lonely. There may be a feeling or disconnect with feeling cared for, or the sensation that there are people that truly care might be missing from your life.
Connecting to spirit is a wonderful way, check out a church, or meditate. A great way to quickly reconnect and feel cared for ---- is to truly care for others AND yourself. For example, when you see some lovely flowers and consider how nice it would be receive them, do just that, give them to yourself AND give some to someone else. Your card to yourself might say -- To Olivia -- From a person who truly cares about you, with love.
Or, go to a driving range - hit some golf balls, take the time for yourself. Present it as a gift of time from someone who truly cares. Insert a few of these into a week. As is true with the concept of -A Tidbit ---- squeeze each minute -- they are yummy.
Many people feel alone, though not necessarily lonely. There may be a feeling or disconnect with feeling cared for, or the sensation that there are people that truly care might be missing from your life.
Connecting to spirit is a wonderful way, check out a church, or meditate. A great way to quickly reconnect and feel cared for ---- is to truly care for others AND yourself. For example, when you see some lovely flowers and consider how nice it would be receive them, do just that, give them to yourself AND give some to someone else. Your card to yourself might say -- To Olivia -- From a person who truly cares about you, with love.
Or, go to a driving range - hit some golf balls, take the time for yourself. Present it as a gift of time from someone who truly cares. Insert a few of these into a week. As is true with the concept of -A Tidbit ---- squeeze each minute -- they are yummy.
Change Equals Caos - Caos Creates Change - Ahhhhhh
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
When changes happen, chaos will appear in some form or another. OR, is chaos what you are avoiding so changes are not made.
It became very evident to me this past week that to make change -- habits and patterns will need to change. To stop smoking - go to bed at a different hour, take a bath instead of a shower. What I am suggesting is to put yourself in a different place where you don't smoke (or other change) by habit. Spend time at the library or bookstore. Go to the animal shelter and volunteer.
Ever heard of controlled chaos? Otherwise known as small changes -- My time is literally up. I have been crippled somewhat without a computer, and have been spending time at the library. The hard drive crashed a few weeks ago on a Dell - and it has been challenging to resurrect a new one yet I'm considering it an upgrade, as the new one will be bigger and faster.
I think it will be coming soon, the new to me hard drive and computer.
I enjoy your comments - send more, please.
When changes happen, chaos will appear in some form or another. OR, is chaos what you are avoiding so changes are not made.
It became very evident to me this past week that to make change -- habits and patterns will need to change. To stop smoking - go to bed at a different hour, take a bath instead of a shower. What I am suggesting is to put yourself in a different place where you don't smoke (or other change) by habit. Spend time at the library or bookstore. Go to the animal shelter and volunteer.
Ever heard of controlled chaos? Otherwise known as small changes -- My time is literally up. I have been crippled somewhat without a computer, and have been spending time at the library. The hard drive crashed a few weeks ago on a Dell - and it has been challenging to resurrect a new one yet I'm considering it an upgrade, as the new one will be bigger and faster.
I think it will be coming soon, the new to me hard drive and computer.
I enjoy your comments - send more, please.
Truly Free Coaching
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
In the interest of coaching 100 people this year -- I am offering two free (no obligation) coaching sessions to any person interested. If I gave you $100 cash, would you take it? Then, if you don't contact me, you are not taking it.
Please contact me at itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com.
There truly is no obligation. It is summer and, for many, the pace is slower. What a wonderful time to focus on yourself before the hectic fall schedule begins. Do you have a nagging desire or need that is not getting met? Tolerating much that is causing an energy drain? Want to lighten up and play more -- determine the difference between joy and happy. Wonder what coaching is all about? It truly is a safe - non judgmental relationship -- just send an email --- the choice is yours to begin and the coaching will be about YOU, not me. The process is with questions - as we talk. Very safe and secure. Have a great day - create one of your choice.
Warm regards, Susan
In the interest of coaching 100 people this year -- I am offering two free (no obligation) coaching sessions to any person interested. If I gave you $100 cash, would you take it? Then, if you don't contact me, you are not taking it.
Please contact me at itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com.
There truly is no obligation. It is summer and, for many, the pace is slower. What a wonderful time to focus on yourself before the hectic fall schedule begins. Do you have a nagging desire or need that is not getting met? Tolerating much that is causing an energy drain? Want to lighten up and play more -- determine the difference between joy and happy. Wonder what coaching is all about? It truly is a safe - non judgmental relationship -- just send an email --- the choice is yours to begin and the coaching will be about YOU, not me. The process is with questions - as we talk. Very safe and secure. Have a great day - create one of your choice.
Warm regards, Susan
CUSTOMER CAN BE - PART OF THE PROBLEM
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
Tired of missing out on good customer service? Perhaps, feeling that others are picking on you, or that businesses are just not responsive?
Yesterday I noticed two situations – one very bad on behalf of the customer and the business. The other was a sample of the customer knowing what they needed and clearly asking for it.
In the first instance the customer was confused and unsure of the process. The company employee was a bit cold in the response. In the end, neither person was happy or satisfied with the communication process. The customer was angry and requested the manager, and I’m unsure what happened with the employee.
The second example is in a library. The customer wanted to finish a book, yet the library policy clearly stated that books in the new fiction category could not be renewed. The customer stated her goal, and requested to be added to the waiting list. The librarian checked, and there was no waiting list. Then the library suggested the customer return the book, and then the customer was able to check it out again for three more weeks. This is a perfect example of the customer clearing stating the need, and receiving benefit. This is also a fine example of a business being open and respective of their clientele.
When the customer is clear on their needs, and communicates them cleanly, the outcome will be positive for the customer and the business.
Tired of missing out on good customer service? Perhaps, feeling that others are picking on you, or that businesses are just not responsive?
Yesterday I noticed two situations – one very bad on behalf of the customer and the business. The other was a sample of the customer knowing what they needed and clearly asking for it.
In the first instance the customer was confused and unsure of the process. The company employee was a bit cold in the response. In the end, neither person was happy or satisfied with the communication process. The customer was angry and requested the manager, and I’m unsure what happened with the employee.
The second example is in a library. The customer wanted to finish a book, yet the library policy clearly stated that books in the new fiction category could not be renewed. The customer stated her goal, and requested to be added to the waiting list. The librarian checked, and there was no waiting list. Then the library suggested the customer return the book, and then the customer was able to check it out again for three more weeks. This is a perfect example of the customer clearing stating the need, and receiving benefit. This is also a fine example of a business being open and respective of their clientele.
When the customer is clear on their needs, and communicates them cleanly, the outcome will be positive for the customer and the business.
Tidbits Get Bigger - Start with Good Ones!!!!!!
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
Sorry that I have been absent, yet so many large things have happened. It has been an awareness. With large things happening, my mind has had trouble focusing on small things, such as -A Tidbit. As noted, a tidbit becomes a part of who you are as it becomes a part of your life. That is a large awareness in the last two months.
All the past tidbits have been instrumental in my growth since the March/April demise of my six-year + relationship. It created an opening in my life for a new roommate who enjoys many of my interests. I now have company bike riding, walking, hiking, healthy eating, concert going, etc.
This awareness has me realizing how incomplete the last relationship was. Each relationship brings something, and I'm grateful for what the last relationship brought. Yet the sloppy abandonment by my former partner left me unsettled, hurt and confused. I now realize that it was not me.
People love others the best way they can. That, apparently was the best he could do. At the end of June my new roommate and I have rented a townhouse that has so many more features at less cost than our current environment. We now have weekend plans and are moving into our new lives with a list of adventures written in plain site and more are being visualized each day. Sometimes a new -A Tidbit must wait, while those that have gotten bigger are tweeked, honed and improved. In fact, for readers this may in fact be the June issue of - A Tidbit. Life is about handling the small and large, and flowing through both provides less resistance.
Comments --
Sorry that I have been absent, yet so many large things have happened. It has been an awareness. With large things happening, my mind has had trouble focusing on small things, such as -A Tidbit. As noted, a tidbit becomes a part of who you are as it becomes a part of your life. That is a large awareness in the last two months.
All the past tidbits have been instrumental in my growth since the March/April demise of my six-year + relationship. It created an opening in my life for a new roommate who enjoys many of my interests. I now have company bike riding, walking, hiking, healthy eating, concert going, etc.
This awareness has me realizing how incomplete the last relationship was. Each relationship brings something, and I'm grateful for what the last relationship brought. Yet the sloppy abandonment by my former partner left me unsettled, hurt and confused. I now realize that it was not me.
People love others the best way they can. That, apparently was the best he could do. At the end of June my new roommate and I have rented a townhouse that has so many more features at less cost than our current environment. We now have weekend plans and are moving into our new lives with a list of adventures written in plain site and more are being visualized each day. Sometimes a new -A Tidbit must wait, while those that have gotten bigger are tweeked, honed and improved. In fact, for readers this may in fact be the June issue of - A Tidbit. Life is about handling the small and large, and flowing through both provides less resistance.
Comments --
SPENCER HAS ARRIVED -- YIPEEEEEEE!!!!!!!
Wednesday, May 16, 2007
Hello Everyone --- OK, I've acquired a new title to try on -- Grandma, Nana, Gram, Grams, etc. etc.
Spencer John cannot talk yet, but when he does, I feel certain he will come up with something that will be good for him and for me. Spencer was born yesterday - all of him measuring -- 9# 3.5 oz., 23" long with a full head of reddish blond hair.
Oh, I am so very pleased, proud, happy and excited. I look forward to his first sleepover to my house. This just reminds me that a clear vision of the future is important. Each day I will continue taking steps toward my vision. I will recheck it occasionally to determine if the vision is still the same or if it has shifted a bit -- and then step changes may be needed. Goals are great - yet what happens when you reach a goal? Do you stop? Take time to create new ones? What if you get there and don't like it? I'm curious. Do you have thoughts about goals?
Hello Everyone --- OK, I've acquired a new title to try on -- Grandma, Nana, Gram, Grams, etc. etc.
Spencer John cannot talk yet, but when he does, I feel certain he will come up with something that will be good for him and for me. Spencer was born yesterday - all of him measuring -- 9# 3.5 oz., 23" long with a full head of reddish blond hair.
Oh, I am so very pleased, proud, happy and excited. I look forward to his first sleepover to my house. This just reminds me that a clear vision of the future is important. Each day I will continue taking steps toward my vision. I will recheck it occasionally to determine if the vision is still the same or if it has shifted a bit -- and then step changes may be needed. Goals are great - yet what happens when you reach a goal? Do you stop? Take time to create new ones? What if you get there and don't like it? I'm curious. Do you have thoughts about goals?
THE CHOICE IS YOURS - CREAT A GOOD ONE!
Sunday, May 13, 2007
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY !!!!!!!
I like this day for the hugs, the communication, the fun of memories and connections. My daughter is expecting a boy, in fact the due date was yesterday. That would have been a truly wonderful Mother's Day gift. Alas, he has not arrived yet. Today I find myself spending time with myself. At first I felt uncomfortable, well for about 10 minutes. Then I decided to indulge myself in whatever I wanted to do, as, I can again do whatever I want now that I am no longer in a relationship. I picked up a book for an hour, and then took a nap. All before noon. Both of those things were lovely. Then a visit with my mom, my daughter and I'm back again with me.
Now, I am contemplating a nice walk along the canal with my headphones on as the sun is shining brightly. One thing I am learning is that as I keep my body moving there are multiple benefits. My mind relaxes, I get exercise, fresh air, and Vitamin D when the sun is shining. Also, there are people with and without pets on the canal walk. It is a very pleasant environment. Where is your pleasant environment?
Create a nice day, you have the power!
--Susan
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY !!!!!!!
I like this day for the hugs, the communication, the fun of memories and connections. My daughter is expecting a boy, in fact the due date was yesterday. That would have been a truly wonderful Mother's Day gift. Alas, he has not arrived yet. Today I find myself spending time with myself. At first I felt uncomfortable, well for about 10 minutes. Then I decided to indulge myself in whatever I wanted to do, as, I can again do whatever I want now that I am no longer in a relationship. I picked up a book for an hour, and then took a nap. All before noon. Both of those things were lovely. Then a visit with my mom, my daughter and I'm back again with me.
Now, I am contemplating a nice walk along the canal with my headphones on as the sun is shining brightly. One thing I am learning is that as I keep my body moving there are multiple benefits. My mind relaxes, I get exercise, fresh air, and Vitamin D when the sun is shining. Also, there are people with and without pets on the canal walk. It is a very pleasant environment. Where is your pleasant environment?
Create a nice day, you have the power!
--Susan
ACKNOWLEDGE YOURSELF - GRATEFUL FOR? OH, SO MUCH
Tuesday, May 8, 2007
Each evening before bed I ask questions of myself -- and each morning I check in again to write what I am grateful for, as well as what healthy and positive acknowledgements have occurred within the day. For example, I am grateful that I have been exercising each day; I acknowledge I was living in the dark past for a few weeks; I am grateful that I am moving beyond; I am grateful that my body is more fit and my focus is on eating healthy again; etc. etc. etc.
Some days I simply acknowledged that I got up in the morning; recently, I acknowledged that I was offered and accepted a part time job at the company I have wanted to work; I acknowledge I now have time to coach, support and write. The concept of forgiving is interesting. To me it caused struggle as to attempt to forgive gave more fuel to what I was forgiving someone for. Thus, I moved away from that word and moved into simply loving myself and all those who support me. That was a great beginning. I began to communicate with each person who stood up to support me. Individually, each one was thanked and acknowledged. I told each person specifically how much their support, kindness, and their participation is appreciated.
A suggestion is to create three concentric circles (one inside the other). Make them large enough to write in. In the middle circle write the names of your best and closest friends or confidants. In the next circle write names of those who are not quite as close. In the outer circle write the names of acquaintances, fellow workers, a mechanic, etc. The outer circle contains the group that is supportive and helpful, yet they may be paid, or a friend’s friend, etc.
If the inner circle is a bit short – or you realize that some people in your lives are not supportive, consider that. It is important to surround yourself with supportive people, who don’t judge, criticize or complain.
Update this list every 3-6 months and observe if movement occurs. Consider making shifts.
One small tip – live in the day you are in.
A HUGE thank you to those who have shared their experiences and left messages. Your comments are very appreciated.
Cheers - Susan
Each evening before bed I ask questions of myself -- and each morning I check in again to write what I am grateful for, as well as what healthy and positive acknowledgements have occurred within the day. For example, I am grateful that I have been exercising each day; I acknowledge I was living in the dark past for a few weeks; I am grateful that I am moving beyond; I am grateful that my body is more fit and my focus is on eating healthy again; etc. etc. etc.
Some days I simply acknowledged that I got up in the morning; recently, I acknowledged that I was offered and accepted a part time job at the company I have wanted to work; I acknowledge I now have time to coach, support and write. The concept of forgiving is interesting. To me it caused struggle as to attempt to forgive gave more fuel to what I was forgiving someone for. Thus, I moved away from that word and moved into simply loving myself and all those who support me. That was a great beginning. I began to communicate with each person who stood up to support me. Individually, each one was thanked and acknowledged. I told each person specifically how much their support, kindness, and their participation is appreciated.
A suggestion is to create three concentric circles (one inside the other). Make them large enough to write in. In the middle circle write the names of your best and closest friends or confidants. In the next circle write names of those who are not quite as close. In the outer circle write the names of acquaintances, fellow workers, a mechanic, etc. The outer circle contains the group that is supportive and helpful, yet they may be paid, or a friend’s friend, etc.
If the inner circle is a bit short – or you realize that some people in your lives are not supportive, consider that. It is important to surround yourself with supportive people, who don’t judge, criticize or complain.
Update this list every 3-6 months and observe if movement occurs. Consider making shifts.
One small tip – live in the day you are in.
A HUGE thank you to those who have shared their experiences and left messages. Your comments are very appreciated.
Cheers - Susan
FLOWING -- PAST ROCKS AND OTHER STUFF
Friday, May 4, 2007
-A TIDBIT – NO.13
The trees and shrubs are beginning to bud, and flowers are popping up to expose their glorious blossoms. Streams will begin to slow from the rush of rapids fed by melting snow, ice and spring rains to a slow, meandering flow. The changing flow of water throughout its life is nature at its best. People that feel a connection and attraction to oceans, lakes, rivers, streams are following their innate desire to cast off resistance and move through life with grace and wonderment.
Life is jam-packed with many wonderful things, yet chaos and trouble continue to appear. When presented with situations, as humans we categorize feelings with words and thoughts, such as uncertainty, hurt, or anger. When those feelings remain focused on negative or lack, they remain to settle into the person that we are.
The nature of water is that as it flows, it experiences rocks, crevices, trees, and damns. It does not resist any new experience as it flows over, under, around or simply rests. When an opportunity is created to move, it does so without hesitation, fear or any thoughts.
People are unique using words of expression. As you hit a rock what keeps you from flowing past?
Suggestion:
“The Laws of Spirit,” by Dan Millman. Take a walk along the Erie Canal or visit a lake, or stream and watch the water’s reaction and consider how it might apply to you. Men’s bodies contain about 72% of water, women’s approximately 68%. These statistics are compliments of http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_water. Being near and connecting with nature’s water is instinctive to humans. Stop avoiding what is natural.
Take a moment, sit quietly, visualize a place of comfort, perhaps floating on a raft, the water azure blue, free from sunburn danger, you soak up the energy, relaxing with each rolling wave.
Welcome back! If new, welcome to the process! Please feel free to share -A Tidbit with a friend. If you would like to be added to a mailing list or to make a comment, contactitsyourlifenet@yahoo.com. –A Tidbit is created by: Susan M. Korb, It’s Your Life Net, Transition Coaching
This content may be forwarded in full with contact, and creation information intact, without specific permission, when used only in a not-for-profit context. For other uses, please receive permission in writing from itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com.
Copyright © February 19, 2007, Susan M. Korb
IT’S YOUR LIFE NET
-A TIDBIT
-A Tidbit will evolve and develop --
-A Tidbit will evolve and develop --
Watch as it creates reserves and bolsters your life.
-A TIDBIT – NO.13
The trees and shrubs are beginning to bud, and flowers are popping up to expose their glorious blossoms. Streams will begin to slow from the rush of rapids fed by melting snow, ice and spring rains to a slow, meandering flow. The changing flow of water throughout its life is nature at its best. People that feel a connection and attraction to oceans, lakes, rivers, streams are following their innate desire to cast off resistance and move through life with grace and wonderment.
Life is jam-packed with many wonderful things, yet chaos and trouble continue to appear. When presented with situations, as humans we categorize feelings with words and thoughts, such as uncertainty, hurt, or anger. When those feelings remain focused on negative or lack, they remain to settle into the person that we are.
The nature of water is that as it flows, it experiences rocks, crevices, trees, and damns. It does not resist any new experience as it flows over, under, around or simply rests. When an opportunity is created to move, it does so without hesitation, fear or any thoughts.
People are unique using words of expression. As you hit a rock what keeps you from flowing past?
Suggestion:
“The Laws of Spirit,” by Dan Millman. Take a walk along the Erie Canal or visit a lake, or stream and watch the water’s reaction and consider how it might apply to you. Men’s bodies contain about 72% of water, women’s approximately 68%. These statistics are compliments of
Take a moment, sit quietly, visualize a place of comfort, perhaps floating on a raft, the water azure blue, free from sunburn danger, you soak up the energy, relaxing with each rolling wave.
Welcome back! If new, welcome to the process! Please feel free to share -A Tidbit with a friend. If you would like to be added to a mailing list or to make a comment, contact
This content may be forwarded in full with contact, and creation information intact, without specific permission, when used only in a not-for-profit context. For other uses, please receive permission in writing from
Copyright © February 19, 2007, Susan M. Korb
Friday, October 26, 2007
RELATIONSHIP PURGING - IT'S THERAPUDIC
Thursday, May 3, 2007
Good Morning -- ah, what a transition. Today the sun is shining brightly and the weather is beginning to warm up in Upstate New York. Some people are uncomfortable with the word change, so I'm using transition, as it appears to be softer and more subtle. My life has taken on quite the transition recently.
Six years of relationship seemingly wiped out within minutes, and cleaned out and removed within a week. Yet, the world has created another opportunity for me to share my current residence and life with a friend who is also in transition. That occurred exactly one week after Rick packed up and departed abruptly, with no further communication other than a few abrupt emails. Interesting. Anybody have any thoughts on this transition?
The past three, almost four weeks have been filled with some grey clouds, yet accomplishments, proud moments and reawakening. As a woman, the need to remove every belonging of the former relationship has been a compulsive search and seek mission. I believe I have removed everything, even a Christmas ornament. Is this typical of other women who are or have moved past a relationship? I have a theory that women need to remove all physical items as they indicate a connection remains.
Please share -- your thoughts.
Good Morning -- ah, what a transition. Today the sun is shining brightly and the weather is beginning to warm up in Upstate New York. Some people are uncomfortable with the word change, so I'm using transition, as it appears to be softer and more subtle. My life has taken on quite the transition recently.
Six years of relationship seemingly wiped out within minutes, and cleaned out and removed within a week. Yet, the world has created another opportunity for me to share my current residence and life with a friend who is also in transition. That occurred exactly one week after Rick packed up and departed abruptly, with no further communication other than a few abrupt emails. Interesting. Anybody have any thoughts on this transition?
The past three, almost four weeks have been filled with some grey clouds, yet accomplishments, proud moments and reawakening. As a woman, the need to remove every belonging of the former relationship has been a compulsive search and seek mission. I believe I have removed everything, even a Christmas ornament. Is this typical of other women who are or have moved past a relationship? I have a theory that women need to remove all physical items as they indicate a connection remains.
Please share -- your thoughts.
MINI BIO -- CONTINUING TO EVOLVE
Monday, April 2, 2007
Susan Korb's coaching practice, It's Your Life Net, supports clients in transition while crossing the gap clearing fears, needs and shifting to "I Did It!!!!!! to --- What's Next!!!" Contact her at itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com or sample her newsletter, -A Tidbit, at http://www.atidbit.blogspot.com/
This is a sample of my new mini bio. As with just about anything, with each step something new unfolds. Take enough steps, and it just may begin to look like what you had envisioned. I wish you a joyous day!
Susan Korb's coaching practice, It's Your Life Net, supports clients in transition while crossing the gap clearing fears, needs and shifting to "I Did It!!!!!! to --- What's Next!!!" Contact her at itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com or sample her newsletter, -A Tidbit, at http://www.atidbit.blogspot.com/
This is a sample of my new mini bio. As with just about anything, with each step something new unfolds. Take enough steps, and it just may begin to look like what you had envisioned. I wish you a joyous day!
IF YOU ARE WONDERING .......
October 26, 2007
This blog looks different today - yes -- because blogger.com had challenges recently with its formatting. Because of that - I saved all posts to Microsoft Word, then my VA did her magic and corrected the format. Now, I am in the process of updating with all the former posts - and will soon, be creating new posts.
Sooooo -- check out the posts with some updated edits - and know that all is well and more to come.
Create a wonderful day -
This blog looks different today - yes -- because blogger.com had challenges recently with its formatting. Because of that - I saved all posts to Microsoft Word, then my VA did her magic and corrected the format. Now, I am in the process of updating with all the former posts - and will soon, be creating new posts.
Sooooo -- check out the posts with some updated edits - and know that all is well and more to come.
Create a wonderful day -
TRADITIONS? DRAIN OR ENERGY?
Wednesday, April 4, 2007
Here is another -A Tidbit newsletter. It was written in November designed with the approching winter holidays. Change the holiday out to Easter, July 4th or Labor Day, and it will mean the same. Your thoughts will be appreciated. I hope when you arrive here you will feel comfortable.
IT’S YOUR LIFE NET
-A TIDBIT
-A Tidbit, into a crumb, into a morsel --
Watch it grow and grow becoming evolve into what you want in your life!
-A TIDBIT – NO. 7
The 2006 holiday season is steamrolling in our direction. People around the world are physically and mentally poised to embark on festive preparations to celebrate Thanksgiving, Chanukah and Christmas, interspersed with birthdays and other occasions of celebration. You may have holiday habits that typically lead toward stress and overwhelm. Habits come from many places and their origin may be a mystery.
People can develop habits derived from tradition. Typically, this time of year everyone experiences traditions practiced from years past. Many are lovingly revisited, and others are practiced on auto-pilot. Some people smile at the memory of a stress-crazed relative and believe that stress and the resulting “insanity” are part of the holiday process. Traditions are a very important part of holidays and celebrations.
Giving yourself permission to make slight alterations may re-energize “old” habits. Then both the preparation and the actual holiday will be fully enjoyed. Each generation has the opportunity and the choice to look at a tradition, bend and shape it, to create their own habit adapting it to fit their lifestyle. Alterations to a habit can be minimal. An example is preparing Christmas Dinner on Christmas Eve. This can provide freedom from kitchen preparation, an added energy boost on Christmas Day to enjoy the family and a traditional holiday meal.
SUGGESTIONS:
2. Ask yourself the following questions: What makes this tradition beneficial and, why is it part of the celebration? Is this habit important in the celebration? What steps can be taken to make modifications without taking away from the tradition and celebration? Consider taking a step or two toward enjoying the entire holiday process, including preparation.
Bathed in warmth, and perhaps tired, as the festivities pass in what seem mere minutes, the –A Tidbit wish is that you will be looking forward to the next celebration with joy and excitement.
Please feel free to share -A Tidbit with a friend. Welcome back! If new, welcome to the process! If you would like to be added to a mailing list or to make a comment, please forward request to itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com. Created by: Susan M. Korb, It's Your Life Net
Here is another -A Tidbit newsletter. It was written in November designed with the approching winter holidays. Change the holiday out to Easter, July 4th or Labor Day, and it will mean the same. Your thoughts will be appreciated. I hope when you arrive here you will feel comfortable.
IT’S YOUR LIFE NET
-A TIDBIT
-A Tidbit, into a crumb, into a morsel --
Watch it grow and grow becoming evolve into what you want in your life!
-A TIDBIT – NO. 7
The 2006 holiday season is steamrolling in our direction. People around the world are physically and mentally poised to embark on festive preparations to celebrate Thanksgiving, Chanukah and Christmas, interspersed with birthdays and other occasions of celebration. You may have holiday habits that typically lead toward stress and overwhelm. Habits come from many places and their origin may be a mystery.
People can develop habits derived from tradition. Typically, this time of year everyone experiences traditions practiced from years past. Many are lovingly revisited, and others are practiced on auto-pilot. Some people smile at the memory of a stress-crazed relative and believe that stress and the resulting “insanity” are part of the holiday process. Traditions are a very important part of holidays and celebrations.
Giving yourself permission to make slight alterations may re-energize “old” habits. Then both the preparation and the actual holiday will be fully enjoyed. Each generation has the opportunity and the choice to look at a tradition, bend and shape it, to create their own habit adapting it to fit their lifestyle. Alterations to a habit can be minimal. An example is preparing Christmas Dinner on Christmas Eve. This can provide freedom from kitchen preparation, an added energy boost on Christmas Day to enjoy the family and a traditional holiday meal.
SUGGESTIONS:
1. Communicate with each person involved to discover their most important tradition. This may divulge how to celebrate with less effort and more delight. Please, don’t forget the most important person, yourself.
2. Ask yourself the following questions: What makes this tradition beneficial and, why is it part of the celebration? Is this habit important in the celebration? What steps can be taken to make modifications without taking away from the tradition and celebration? Consider taking a step or two toward enjoying the entire holiday process, including preparation.
Bathed in warmth, and perhaps tired, as the festivities pass in what seem mere minutes, the –A Tidbit wish is that you will be looking forward to the next celebration with joy and excitement.
Please feel free to share -A Tidbit with a friend. Welcome back! If new, welcome to the process! If you would like to be added to a mailing list or to make a comment, please forward request to itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com. Created by: Susan M. Korb, It's Your Life Net
This content may be forwarded in full with contact, and creation information intact, without specific permission, when used only in a not-for-profit context. For other uses, please receive permission in writing from itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com.
Copyright © February 19, 2007, Susan M. Korb
Copyright © February 19, 2007, Susan M. Korb
STRENGTH ---- POWER - YOU CHOOSE, CHOOSE CAREFULLY PLEASE
Friday, April 13, 2007
Turmoil -- wow, my life has been in it the last few weeks -- yet, yesterday I had a visit from a friend who is a gift from a former relationship. That in itself was a gift, and the visit another.
Last evening I received another gift. I heard from another friend that during our visit he became aware that I am a very strong woman. I pondered that for a bit, and then realized I am so proud to be perceived as coming from strength and not power. A person living life from strength is truth, evolution and development.
Coming from power has attachments from ego of needs and expectations. Just a thought I felt a need to share. Create a nice day, Susan
Turmoil -- wow, my life has been in it the last few weeks -- yet, yesterday I had a visit from a friend who is a gift from a former relationship. That in itself was a gift, and the visit another.
Last evening I received another gift. I heard from another friend that during our visit he became aware that I am a very strong woman. I pondered that for a bit, and then realized I am so proud to be perceived as coming from strength and not power. A person living life from strength is truth, evolution and development.
Coming from power has attachments from ego of needs and expectations. Just a thought I felt a need to share. Create a nice day, Susan
SHOULD - TO WANT -- TO, TO -- IT'S DONE!!!!
Wednesday, April 25, 2007
-A Tidbit, into a crumb, into a morsel --
Watch it grow and grow becoming that something you want in your life!
-A TIDBIT – NO. 9
JANUARY 5, 2007
Happy New Year Everyone!!!
Is a new project daunting or are you not clear on what “should” project to begin? Is a task or honey-do list of chores overwhelming, and a chat with a telemarketer is perceived as a pleasant interruption?
The word “should” by definition in “Webster’s New World Compact School and Office Dictionary” is “…….. a) obligation, duty, etc. b) expectation or probability, c) a future condition.”
I venture a guess that a “should” project seldom is completed. If you consider this topic unimportant, please, take your own survey. Listen to 5-10 people this week and notice the context and the times the word “should” is used. Also, listen for the times that others say, “You should….”
The confetti has been swept away and the bubbles have popped. If you have eliminated “should” from your vocabulary, I send a hearty congratulations to you. If not, the following suggestion may provide an idea.
Suggestion: Observe when you use the words “I should” and rephrase to “I want…” Consider this example. “I should clean my desk,” would become, “I don’t want a dirty desk”, or “I want the desk to be clean so I can find things, feel lighter and more creative.” Use either the “don’t want” or the “want” version, or use them in conjunction with each other. This is about what resonates and works for YOU. The next thought is, perhaps, “I will take ten to fifteen minutes to clean it.” Add the words, tonight or tomorrow, at the beginning of the sentence and a “should” turned into action and was resolved with little effort. Without complicating this, please note that sometimes a “should” is not one that we actually created. It may have come from a “You should….” If that has occurred then the suggestion is to return to the beginning – Observe, etc. with “You should” and rephrase to “I want…, etc.
If new, welcome to the process! Please share -A Tidbit with a friend or contact itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com. –A Tidbit is created by: Susan M. Korb, It’s Your Life Net.
This content may be forwarded in full with contact, and creation information intact, without specific permission, when used only in a not-for-profit context. For other uses, please receive permission in writing from itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com.Copyright © February 19, 2007, Susan M. Korb
IT'S YOUR LIFE NET
-A Tidbit
-A Tidbit, into a crumb, into a morsel --
Watch it grow and grow becoming that something you want in your life!
-A TIDBIT – NO. 9
JANUARY 5, 2007
Happy New Year Everyone!!!
Are you currently on the sidelines mulling over in which direction to take the first step, or are you the person who began to gallop as the New Year bells tolled? If you utter the words “I should…..”, then this –A Tidbit may be of interest.
Is a new project daunting or are you not clear on what “should” project to begin? Is a task or honey-do list of chores overwhelming, and a chat with a telemarketer is perceived as a pleasant interruption?
The word “should” by definition in “Webster’s New World Compact School and Office Dictionary” is “…….. a) obligation, duty, etc. b) expectation or probability, c) a future condition.”
I venture a guess that a “should” project seldom is completed. If you consider this topic unimportant, please, take your own survey. Listen to 5-10 people this week and notice the context and the times the word “should” is used. Also, listen for the times that others say, “You should….”
The confetti has been swept away and the bubbles have popped. If you have eliminated “should” from your vocabulary, I send a hearty congratulations to you. If not, the following suggestion may provide an idea.
Suggestion: Observe when you use the words “I should” and rephrase to “I want…” Consider this example. “I should clean my desk,” would become, “I don’t want a dirty desk”, or “I want the desk to be clean so I can find things, feel lighter and more creative.” Use either the “don’t want” or the “want” version, or use them in conjunction with each other. This is about what resonates and works for YOU. The next thought is, perhaps, “I will take ten to fifteen minutes to clean it.” Add the words, tonight or tomorrow, at the beginning of the sentence and a “should” turned into action and was resolved with little effort. Without complicating this, please note that sometimes a “should” is not one that we actually created. It may have come from a “You should….” If that has occurred then the suggestion is to return to the beginning – Observe, etc. with “You should” and rephrase to “I want…, etc.
If new, welcome to the process! Please share -A Tidbit with a friend or contact itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com. –A Tidbit is created by: Susan M. Korb, It’s Your Life Net.
This content may be forwarded in full with contact, and creation information intact, without specific permission, when used only in a not-for-profit context. For other uses, please receive permission in writing from itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com.
BAD TO GOOD -- THINK IT -- REALLY......
Wednesday, April 25, 2007
-A TIDBIT – NO.11
March 2, 2007
Think of a feeling and it shall be -- regardless if it is a good feeling or a not so good feeling.
What truly grabbed my attention on this subject recently were February days that were bitter cold with large snowfalls. Last week (2/12-2/16/07) schools were closed and public and private activities were cancelled throughout the Rochester region. I was grateful for the opportunity to stay warm, cozy and safe inside rather than driving on slippery roads, in frigid, blustery conditions.
Last Thursday the storm appeared to diminish. I donned appropriate winter attire (ski jacket, boots, hat, and gloves) and lumbered outside into the rolling sea of massive, white fluffy waves of snow. Slowly I scrutinized the area and, at last, discovered the whale-like mound rising from the vicinity where my small car had last been seen.
My new snow brush was in the car. It would take an hour to clean the car off. I will be late to pick up my friend for our planned day of work projects and adventures. I began to grouse, moan, complain and protest with a variety of expressions. The task to reclaim the car seemed daunting, and I was feeling miserable. Both the car and I had been used to a garage. What was going on?
Then my mind snapped – what am I thinking? The many negative thoughts suddenly quieted as I allowed my mind to recognize that the sought after southern blue sky and my quest for outdoor, physical activity had plunked itself down into my current world. What appeared in my mind and in reality were a beautiful, New York blue sky (unusual in winter) and the opportunity for muscle and cardio exercise while uncovering the car. I was being given a gift!
Suggestion: Of course, some days just seem to suck. Have you had a dark morning moment that seemed to quickly propel you into a very bleak day? Take the first step and become aware of your thoughts. When another dark moment appears, stop and take a thought from negative to positive and a whole day may be salvaged. Begin to play -- begin the slight flipping of a word, honing a phrase and being aware of perspective. Meditation works, and, yes, a slap in the face with cold air worked for me.
Welcome back! If new, welcome to the process! Please feel free to share -A Tidbit with a friend. If you would like to be added to a mailing list or to make a comment, contactitsyourlifenet@yahoo.com. –A Tidbit is created by: Susan M. Korb, It’s Your Life Net
This content may be forwarded in full with contact, and creation information intact, without specific permission, when used only in a not-for-profit context. For other uses, please receive permission in writing from itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com.
Copyright © February 19, 2007, Susan M. Korb
IT'S YOUR LIFE NET
-A Tidbit
-A Tidbit, into quality, into worth --
-A Tidbit, into quality, into worth --
Watch it develop to create reserves and bolster your life!
-A TIDBIT – NO.11
March 2, 2007
Think of a feeling and it shall be -- regardless if it is a good feeling or a not so good feeling.
What truly grabbed my attention on this subject recently were February days that were bitter cold with large snowfalls. Last week (2/12-2/16/07) schools were closed and public and private activities were cancelled throughout the Rochester region. I was grateful for the opportunity to stay warm, cozy and safe inside rather than driving on slippery roads, in frigid, blustery conditions.
Last Thursday the storm appeared to diminish. I donned appropriate winter attire (ski jacket, boots, hat, and gloves) and lumbered outside into the rolling sea of massive, white fluffy waves of snow. Slowly I scrutinized the area and, at last, discovered the whale-like mound rising from the vicinity where my small car had last been seen.
My new snow brush was in the car. It would take an hour to clean the car off. I will be late to pick up my friend for our planned day of work projects and adventures. I began to grouse, moan, complain and protest with a variety of expressions. The task to reclaim the car seemed daunting, and I was feeling miserable. Both the car and I had been used to a garage. What was going on?
Then my mind snapped – what am I thinking? The many negative thoughts suddenly quieted as I allowed my mind to recognize that the sought after southern blue sky and my quest for outdoor, physical activity had plunked itself down into my current world. What appeared in my mind and in reality were a beautiful, New York blue sky (unusual in winter) and the opportunity for muscle and cardio exercise while uncovering the car. I was being given a gift!
Suggestion: Of course, some days just seem to suck. Have you had a dark morning moment that seemed to quickly propel you into a very bleak day? Take the first step and become aware of your thoughts. When another dark moment appears, stop and take a thought from negative to positive and a whole day may be salvaged. Begin to play -- begin the slight flipping of a word, honing a phrase and being aware of perspective. Meditation works, and, yes, a slap in the face with cold air worked for me.
Welcome back! If new, welcome to the process! Please feel free to share -A Tidbit with a friend. If you would like to be added to a mailing list or to make a comment, contact
This content may be forwarded in full with contact, and creation information intact, without specific permission, when used only in a not-for-profit context. For other uses, please receive permission in writing from itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com.
Copyright © February 19, 2007, Susan M. Korb
LONE RANGER - IS IT WORKING FOR YOU?
Wednesday, April 25, 2007
-A Tidbit will evolve and develop --
Watch as it creates reserves and bolsters your life!
-A TIDBIT – NO.12
April 6, 2007
Spring is such a bright time of promise, and according to the calendar, it has arrived. It is a grand time to discard winter’s outer layer under which will appear opportunity.
Without providing specific details, I became aware of some uncomfortable feelings which arose as I considered asking for help. From conversations I have had, I know that I am not alone. Rather than dismiss the feelings, I first acknowledged myself for having them. Then I received some excellent coaching on the subject. One question, “What are some actual, not perceived, consequences of asking for help?” “I could be turned down; it has happened and stopped me in the past.”
I then stepped through the discomfort and sent an email request to a certified coach with whom I had previous correspondence, and I asked a specific question about this newsletter format. I received a delightful response with provocative questions that spawned the changes in the tag line above.
Suggestion: Asking for help, may not be your challenge. I congratulate you! Keep up the wonderful job of peeling off the winter warm fuzziness and prosper.
Yet, if this resonates, I suggest you begin to practice, perhaps with small steps. Consider the people you are asking and the question you are asking. Are you soliciting an opinion or do you want information? Specifically, ask someone currently living in the environment, who owns the article you want to acquire, or an individual who can relate or has experience in what you need. If you think about a new suit, ask someone who has suits you admire. Perhaps, create a team of supporters. The people you ask may be very pleased and proud that you did.
Coaching is a supportive environment. A new feature is to introduce coaches who have touched my life in wonderful ways. Kathleen Richardson. Check out her website!
http://www.onyourwaytothetop.com
Welcome back! If new, welcome to the process! Please feel free to share -A Tidbit with a friend. If you would like to be added to a mailing list or to make a comment, contact itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com. –A Tidbit is created by: Susan M. Korb, It’s Your Life Net, Transition Coaching
This content may be forwarded in full with contact, and creation information intact, without specific permission, when used only in a not-for-profit context. For other uses, please receive permission in writing from itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com.
Copyright © February 19, 2007, Susan M. Korb
-A Tidbit
-A Tidbit will evolve and develop --
Watch as it creates reserves and bolsters your life!
-A TIDBIT – NO.12
April 6, 2007
Spring is such a bright time of promise, and according to the calendar, it has arrived. It is a grand time to discard winter’s outer layer under which will appear opportunity.
With that idea, I read an article detailing advantages to using a business style other than the isolating “Lone Ranger” format. The suggested results are a more productive, fun environment which includes advocates and partisans in a light, spirited community, affording opportunity and expansion while feeling safe asking for help and sharing information.
Without providing specific details, I became aware of some uncomfortable feelings which arose as I considered asking for help. From conversations I have had, I know that I am not alone. Rather than dismiss the feelings, I first acknowledged myself for having them. Then I received some excellent coaching on the subject. One question, “What are some actual, not perceived, consequences of asking for help?” “I could be turned down; it has happened and stopped me in the past.”
I then stepped through the discomfort and sent an email request to a certified coach with whom I had previous correspondence, and I asked a specific question about this newsletter format. I received a delightful response with provocative questions that spawned the changes in the tag line above.
Suggestion: Asking for help, may not be your challenge. I congratulate you! Keep up the wonderful job of peeling off the winter warm fuzziness and prosper.
Yet, if this resonates, I suggest you begin to practice, perhaps with small steps. Consider the people you are asking and the question you are asking. Are you soliciting an opinion or do you want information? Specifically, ask someone currently living in the environment, who owns the article you want to acquire, or an individual who can relate or has experience in what you need. If you think about a new suit, ask someone who has suits you admire. Perhaps, create a team of supporters. The people you ask may be very pleased and proud that you did.
Coaching is a supportive environment. A new feature is to introduce coaches who have touched my life in wonderful ways. Kathleen Richardson. Check out her website!
http://www.onyourwaytothetop.com
Welcome back! If new, welcome to the process! Please feel free to share -A Tidbit with a friend. If you would like to be added to a mailing list or to make a comment, contact itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com. –A Tidbit is created by: Susan M. Korb, It’s Your Life Net, Transition Coaching
This content may be forwarded in full with contact, and creation information intact, without specific permission, when used only in a not-for-profit context. For other uses, please receive permission in writing from itsyourlifenet@yahoo.com.
Copyright © February 19, 2007, Susan M. Korb
WHAT ARE YOU MODELING FOR OTHERS?
Happy Friday, March 2, 2007
I just read the news that teenagers have been arrested for suspicion of bank robbery, here is a synopsis from CNN World News on the Internet:Police:
"It was a conspiracy ... They were in on it" Two women, both 19, were arrested with teller after a brief car chase. A teller and another man also arrested. The four suspects charged with felony theft and marijuana possession.
What interested me is:
What or who was their model in creating this event?
How has the U.S. become a country where teenagers are allegedly robbing banks?
Does this concern anyone else?
Here is a question I pose to the world at large:
Now that the world is fairly transparent. With the Internet expanding at a humongous speed, more and more is visible. What country is trying to intimidate another country (the U.S. is not left out of this game), who is doing what to whom, etc.
Can you, as an individual, think that what you do or what you say is not mirrored by another?
What you are modeling for the world and for those who share your environment has an affect. Each individual perceives information differently. Modeling is about what you are doing or saying AND what is being perceived by others. Communication involves at both ends.
With that, I am moving further into my day becoming more aware of my role in the world.
How about you?
I just read the news that teenagers have been arrested for suspicion of bank robbery, here is a synopsis from CNN World News on the Internet:Police:
"It was a conspiracy ... They were in on it" Two women, both 19, were arrested with teller after a brief car chase. A teller and another man also arrested. The four suspects charged with felony theft and marijuana possession.
What interested me is:
What or who was their model in creating this event?
How has the U.S. become a country where teenagers are allegedly robbing banks?
Does this concern anyone else?
Here is a question I pose to the world at large:
Now that the world is fairly transparent. With the Internet expanding at a humongous speed, more and more is visible. What country is trying to intimidate another country (the U.S. is not left out of this game), who is doing what to whom, etc.
Can you, as an individual, think that what you do or what you say is not mirrored by another?
What you are modeling for the world and for those who share your environment has an affect. Each individual perceives information differently. Modeling is about what you are doing or saying AND what is being perceived by others. Communication involves at both ends.
With that, I am moving further into my day becoming more aware of my role in the world.
How about you?
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Immediate, professional administrative support direct to your virtual address, or wherever convenient.
Draft Letters - Create Charts - Power Point Presentations - Research - and, MUCH MORE!!!
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or email: chris226@mail2web.com
A Virtual Assistant Business ------ Your Right Arm -- 24/7
Immediate, professional administrative support direct to your virtual address, or wherever convenient.
Draft Letters - Create Charts - Power Point Presentations - Research - and, MUCH MORE!!!
Please visit my website at: http://www.assistusucceed.atomicshops.com/
or email: chris226@mail2web.com
INTRODUCING - VIRTUAL ASSISTANT
Virtual Assistant
I am pleased to introduce, Chris Perez, my Virtual Assistant.
She helps keep me sane, and there are many other advantages as well.
I am pleased to introduce, Chris Perez, my Virtual Assistant.
She helps keep me sane, and there are many other advantages as well.
CART BEFORE THE HORSE????? SO WHAT?
Saturday, March 3, 2007
IT'S YOUR LIFE NET
-A Tidbit, into a crumb, into a morsel --
Watch it grow and grow evolving into what you want in your life!
-A TIDBIT -- NO. 5
I am back from vacation, and -A Tidbit returns with thoughts about a common saying of years past. Recently I thought of the phrase -- Don’t put the cart before the horse. Its meaning is, at Bartleby.com is -- to begin at the proper place; do things in their proper order. My question for this definition is WHEN is, WHAT is and WHO decides the proper order and/or proper place to begin?
A creative writing class assignment was to pick a color (I used brown), use variations of the color at least 10 times, use a thesaurus or other tool, and write a maximum of 250 words. I am using a portion of that creation for this –A Tidbit to assist in my explanation of how to dissect a common phrase or paradigm to see if it works for you.
Tipping the thought processes may certainly muddy a clear head; however, upside down thoughts can be invigorating. I have reworded the adage to offer another concept. The size of the cart is required to determine if one horse or two is needed, or perhaps a pony will suffice.
Another perspective is, don’t put the train before the tracks. Oh, progress will be dusty at best when a vast, full-size track of reddish-brown railroad ties stretches out into the distance and the intended train is a maroon and dark brown HO (miniature) model.
Many times an answer will be the same when a question is set in bronze. Don’t let progress get burnt to a liver-colored crisp without standing on your auburn curls for another point of view.
SUGGESTION: Consider a paradigm that you currently have that may not be working in your best interests, and turn it upside down and inside out. Instead of does use does not. Instead of always, use occasionally. Instead of ____________, fill in the blank and stand on your head for another point of view. Which looks, sounds better? If you write it down, I suggest you read it out loud. Add a few colorful adjectives and most important (from my perspective) have some fun.
Created by Susan M. KorbIt’s Your Life Net, Jump Safe Coach
This content may be forwarded in full with contact, and creation information intact, without specific permission, when used only in a not-for-profit context. For other uses, please receive permission in writing from It’sYourLifeNet.
Copyright © September 8, 2006, Susan M. Korb
-A TIDBIT
-A Tidbit, into a crumb, into a morsel --
Watch it grow and grow evolving into what you want in your life!
-A TIDBIT -- NO. 5
I am back from vacation, and -A Tidbit returns with thoughts about a common saying of years past. Recently I thought of the phrase -- Don’t put the cart before the horse. Its meaning is, at Bartleby.com is -- to begin at the proper place; do things in their proper order. My question for this definition is WHEN is, WHAT is and WHO decides the proper order and/or proper place to begin?
A creative writing class assignment was to pick a color (I used brown), use variations of the color at least 10 times, use a thesaurus or other tool, and write a maximum of 250 words. I am using a portion of that creation for this –A Tidbit to assist in my explanation of how to dissect a common phrase or paradigm to see if it works for you.
Tipping the thought processes may certainly muddy a clear head; however, upside down thoughts can be invigorating. I have reworded the adage to offer another concept. The size of the cart is required to determine if one horse or two is needed, or perhaps a pony will suffice.
Another perspective is, don’t put the train before the tracks. Oh, progress will be dusty at best when a vast, full-size track of reddish-brown railroad ties stretches out into the distance and the intended train is a maroon and dark brown HO (miniature) model.
Many times an answer will be the same when a question is set in bronze. Don’t let progress get burnt to a liver-colored crisp without standing on your auburn curls for another point of view.
SUGGESTION: Consider a paradigm that you currently have that may not be working in your best interests, and turn it upside down and inside out. Instead of does use does not. Instead of always, use occasionally. Instead of ____________, fill in the blank and stand on your head for another point of view. Which looks, sounds better? If you write it down, I suggest you read it out loud. Add a few colorful adjectives and most important (from my perspective) have some fun.
Created by Susan M. KorbIt’s Your Life Net, Jump Safe Coach
Copyright © September 8, 2006, Susan M. Korb
MAKE FRIENDS WITH YOUR WORST WEAKNESS
Friday, March 9, 2007
Yeah, it is FRIDAY, and a very pleasant change of pace for a bit of time. I thought today about releasing the hold that "bad" habits have on us, such as procrastination, impatience, laziness, sloppy, etc. Labels that others have presented to us. If you have accepted that to your persona, it is your choice, then it becomes a part of who you are. It is added to the list of things that you are tolerating.
With my "bad" habit of impatience, I created a response --“Although I may appear to be impatient, it is my operating system that works faster than some others. Please let me know when I’m speaking or moving too quickly for your comfort.” This response acknowledges the topic, does not become attached to me with the word "appear" and let's the listener know that I understand and value the methods of others. Then a conversation can take place, and the day continues evolving forward. It avoids a mode of confrontation and avoids anger, bitter words, and slamming doors (an old favorite of mine).
It also takes away the "charge" of impatience, and it tends to fade away into the background.
Happy Weekend!
Yeah, it is FRIDAY, and a very pleasant change of pace for a bit of time. I thought today about releasing the hold that "bad" habits have on us, such as procrastination, impatience, laziness, sloppy, etc. Labels that others have presented to us. If you have accepted that to your persona, it is your choice, then it becomes a part of who you are. It is added to the list of things that you are tolerating.
With my "bad" habit of impatience, I created a response --“Although I may appear to be impatient, it is my operating system that works faster than some others. Please let me know when I’m speaking or moving too quickly for your comfort.” This response acknowledges the topic, does not become attached to me with the word "appear" and let's the listener know that I understand and value the methods of others. Then a conversation can take place, and the day continues evolving forward. It avoids a mode of confrontation and avoids anger, bitter words, and slamming doors (an old favorite of mine).
It also takes away the "charge" of impatience, and it tends to fade away into the background.
Happy Weekend!
Life at the Virtual Blog Beach
SURPRISE - A SOURCE OF HEALTH CARE
Wednesday, March 14, 2007
Now that I'm back in NY, I discovered that I could get health care through a local Chamber of Commerce that is 100% better than what I had in NC. When I moved to NY I was advised by the NC provider that I would have a 25% penalty for being in NY.
I am a new member of the Greece Chamber of Commerce. Also, I have a new health care plan that begins April 1, 2007. I can't be happier. What a relief. Other benefits of joining the Chamber are: I will have contacts, move out of the Lone Ranger pattern, ask and receive feedback on thoughts and projects, and many, many more that I have yet to discover. If you have a DBA filed in the county, check with your local community's Chamber of Commerce to see what benefits they have. You might be surprised, I was.
Enjoy the beach this weekend!
Now that I'm back in NY, I discovered that I could get health care through a local Chamber of Commerce that is 100% better than what I had in NC. When I moved to NY I was advised by the NC provider that I would have a 25% penalty for being in NY.
I am a new member of the Greece Chamber of Commerce. Also, I have a new health care plan that begins April 1, 2007. I can't be happier. What a relief. Other benefits of joining the Chamber are: I will have contacts, move out of the Lone Ranger pattern, ask and receive feedback on thoughts and projects, and many, many more that I have yet to discover. If you have a DBA filed in the county, check with your local community's Chamber of Commerce to see what benefits they have. You might be surprised, I was.
Enjoy the beach this weekend!
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